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Posted By: SCMFG/Staff April 6, 2025

woman lion tamer

Have you ever been to a circus and watched a lion tamer with a four-legged stool? While the effectiveness of using a stool against a lion is debatable and not scientifically proven, the idea that a four-legged stool can prevent a lion from attacking is an intriguing concept that combines elements of animal behavior, psychology, and human ingenuity. Let’s examine the reasoning behind this unconventional defense strategy and explore how to apply these concepts to tame the lions in your life.

Visual Confusion

The primary theory behind using a stool against a lion revolves around visual confusion. A person holding a four-legged stool facing a lion presents an unusual and unfamiliar sight to the predator. The multiple legs of the stool create a confusing visual pattern that can potentially disrupt the lion’s ability to focus on a single target.

  • What circumstances in your daily life can lead to “visual confusion” that might impact your productivity?
  • How might you use the principle of visual confusion to your advantage in problem-solving or creative tasks?

Perceived Threat

Like many predators, lions are cautious when confronted with unfamiliar objects or situations. When pointed toward the lion, the stool may be perceived as a potential threat or obstacle. The legs of the stool might appear to the lion as sharp points or weapons, causing it to hesitate or reconsider its approach.

  • In what situations have you encountered something unfamiliar that initially seemed threatening but turned out to be harmless?
  • How can you apply the “perceived threat” concept to create positive change in your personal or professional life?

Altering the Predator-Prey Dynamic

By introducing the stool, a person changes the typical predator-prey dynamic. Instead of appearing as a vulnerable target, the human with the stool presents a more assertive and potentially threatening posture. This unexpected behavior can confuse the lion, as it doesn’t align with its usual experience of prey animals.

  • Can you recall a time when you changed an expected dynamic in a challenging situation? How did it affect the outcome?
  • In what areas of your life could you benefit from “altering the dynamic” to achieve better results?

Creating a Barrier

Physically, the stool creates a barrier between the person and the lion. While not impenetrable, this barrier adds an extra step that the lion must navigate before reaching its potential prey. The added complexity of the situation may discourage the lion from attacking, as predators often prefer straightforward, low-risk opportunities.

  • What “barriers” have you created in your life that might be protecting you from potential threats or challenges?
  • How can you use the concept of creating barriers to better manage your time, energy, or personal boundaries?

Psychological Impact

The confident and unusual action of presenting a stool might also have a psychological impact on the lion. Predators often rely on the fear response of their prey. By acting in a way that doesn’t display fear and instead shows assertiveness, a person might cause the lion to doubt its dominance in the situation.

  • When have you used confidence to overcome a challenging situation, even if you didn’t feel entirely sure of yourself?
  • How might you apply the “psychological impact” principle to influence positive outcomes in your relationships or career?

Considering these principles derived from the stool-and-lion scenario, which one resonates most with you, and how might you apply it to a current challenge in your life?

Take the Next Step: Connect with Stacey Bevill

Are you ready to revolutionize your team’s dynamics and soar to new heights of productivity? Don’t wait to transform your workplace. Contact Stacey Bevill today and take the first step towards a more cohesive, efficient, and successful team. Your journey to enhanced team dynamics and increased productivity starts with a simple conversation.

Email Stacey@GoldenCareerstrategies.com, schedule online at http://goldencareerstrategies.com/, or call 864-527-0425.

About Stacey Bevill

SC Biz News 2024 included Bevill as an honoree on their 2024 Manufacturing Power List. She serves on the board of the South Carolina Roundtable, part of the Council of Supply Chain Management Professionals (CSCMP), and the Board of Trustees for the University Center of Greenville. She is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC), credentialed by the International Coach Federation (ICF), and a Board-Certified Coach (BCC). Additional credentials include Positive Intelligence, Conversational Intelligence Enhanced Practitioner, Inspired Leadership, Zen Leadership Practitioner, and Coaching for Managers. Stacey is a HeartMath® Certified Coach, Trainer, and Stress & Well-Being Assessment Provider. She is a Flow Energy Balance Indicator (FEBI®) Assessment Certified Coach (Leadership Patterns), a Myers-Briggs MBTI® and a The Leadership Challenge LPI 360® Certified Practitioner. She is also a certified Harrison Assessment provider for hiring and promotions and is Take Flight with DISC Certified, which uses birds to represent D-I-S-C. Stacey recently earned the Certified Career Services Provider (CCSP) credential from the National Career Development Association (NCDA).

Bevill is trained in Lean Six Sigma Black Belt and has received “value-added” training for her manufacturing clients: Certified Agile Change Management and Local Change Agent (credentialed by APMG), and is a Certified Master Project Manager.® She is a graduate of Leadership South Carolina, Leadership Spartanburg, and Spartanburg County Foundation’s Grass Roots Leadership Development Institute (GLDI), and one of three volunteer coaches in South Carolina for Veterans through Stand Beside Them. Bevill was awarded the Rotary International District Service Above Self award.

About Golden Career Strategies (GCS)

GCS helps organizations maximize their employees’ effectiveness and potential by providing innovative organizational and leadership development, assessments, team and individual coaching, custom training and workshops, onboarding, and outplacement services. For individuals, GCS offers a range of tailored services, including The Golden Career Course™, Assessments, coaching and consulting, and more. GCS clients include executives in transition, recent college graduates, those seeking encore careers, entrepreneurs, and others. Complimentary consultations can be scheduled online at www.goldencareerstrategies.com. Everyone is welcome to attend the popular Golden Career Strategies Monthly Upskilling and Networking Event held on the third Thursday of each month from 1:00 p.m. to 2:30 p.m. To learn more and register, visit our website at. https://goldencareerstrategies.com/

Special thanks to David Richardson, VP of Training at the National Comfort Institute (NCI), for inspiring me to create this article.

April 2026

  • Taming Everyday Lions

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff April 6, 2025 Have you ever been to a circus and watched a lion tamer with a four-legged stool? While the effectiveness of using a stool against a lion is debatable and not scientifically proven, the idea that a four-legged stool can prevent a lion from attacking is an intriguing concept that combines elements of animal behavior, psychology, and human ingenuity. Let’s examine the reasoning behind this unconventional defense strategy and explore how to apply these concepts to tame the lions in your life. Visual Confusion The primary theory behind using a stool against a lion revolves around visual […]

    Read More
  • From Pruning to Growth: What Plant Care Can Teach Us About Employee Well-being

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 15, 2025 Recently, while pruning plants that had suffered from sun and water stress, I noticed that after pruning, beautiful new growth emerged rapidly. This experience inspired me to express the importance of leaders in fostering similar rejuvenation in their teams by addressing stress and promoting a supportive and collaborative work environment. Recognizing Stress The leaves of my Hosta plants were not just yellowed; they were browning and droopy. Before this recent experience, I did not enjoy working with plants. But on this day, I spent over three hours tending to our plants and garden, and for the […]

    Read More
  • Golden Career Strategies President Stacey Bevill Earns Harrison Assessments Debriefing and Coaching Accreditation

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 2, 2022 Stacey Bevill, Owner and President of Golden Career Strategies, recently became a certified Harrison Assessment provider. Harrison Assessments’ Talent Solutions Platform empowers businesses and leaders across the globe to create engaged, fulfilled and high-performing teams by providing insights for talent acquisition, employee development, team development, leadership and succession planning, employee engagement and organizational analytics. Harrison’s award-winning, cloud-based technology provides secure, job-specific predictive analytics designed to enhance the candidate and employee experiences. Organizations save time and money by utilizing Harrison’s assessment science and technology to hire the best candidates, validate high potentials, and accelerate individual and team […]

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  • Golden Career Strategies CEO Stacey Bevill Earns Specialty Designations for Board Certified Coach (BCC) Credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE)

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 6, 2022 Stacey Bevill, BCC, PCC, MPM®, is one of fewer than 12 Board Certified Coaches in the Greenville-Spartanburg area and part of an elite group of only 66 in the entire state of South Carolina.  Stacey Bevill, Owner and CEO of Golden Career Strategies, recently earned two prestigious specialty designations for her Board Certified Coach (BCC) credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE). These specialty designations are voluntary accompaniments to the BCC credential emphasizing areas of expertise. Bevill’s specialty designations include Executive/Corporate/Business/Leadership Coach and Career Coach. The BCC credential is a mark of distinction for credential holders and a source […]

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  • Team Engagement and Collaboration in a Hybrid World

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff June 1, 2022 Unprecedented Stress Over the last couple of years, employees have experienced unprecedented stress from external sources including significant losses or changes, health issues, social division and more, all while managing their personal and professional obligations. As a result, employment expectations for both employers and their employees have shifted and will continue to change. Work View Shifts One primary shift is how employees view work. They want a position that is more closely aligned with personal values. Many want their job to have a purpose in their life and not just a way to make a living. […]

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March 2024

  • Identifying and Removing Stressors

    This summer I addressed little things in my life that either annoyed me or added stress. Once identified, it was easy to take action. Below are a few examples. I hope you will be inspired to identify and remove some of your own stressors. 1. Every morning I felt frustrated with having dirt and dog hair on the kitchen floor. Action: Bought a robot vacuum. Result: A smile each morning as I see the floors and empty the vacuum. Love it so much we now have one for the carpeted rooms and will be getting one for the upstairs. 2. […]

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  • Peace Begins with Me

    Recently I attended a Peace Conference. Early in the day we were told that “peace begins with us.” Peace begins with us. I have been contemplating those four simple words since the conference. Peace is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as “In a general sense, a state of quiet or tranquility; freedom from disturbance or agitation; applicable to society, to individuals, or to the temper of the mind.” If peace begins with our own ability to enjoy peace, what are our chances for peace beyond us? How many of us have peace in our daily lives? Today during my morning walk […]

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  • Resolve to be a Better Communicator

    A study by the Joint Commission for Transforming Healthcare revealed that up to 80 percent of serious medical errors can be attributed to miscommunication among medical staff. The good news is that we can easily learn skills to help us communicate more effectively and improve our business and personal relationships. Making effective requests of others is an integral part of good communication in the workplace and at home. But many of us haven’t learned how to deliver a concise request with clear expectations. Oftentimes, we expect others to read our minds or intuitively know how to respond to our requests. […]

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  • Being Compassionate in a Time of Crisis

      If I had to pick one word to describe what we need during this time, that word would be compassion. Compassion for self and compassion for others. Why compassion? When we are under duress or experiencing stress we are more likely to make mistakes, communicate less effectively and present with emotions and behaviors that vary from our norm. For many, the changes and the challenges that we are currently facing trigger unresolved grief or trauma. We feel rocked to our core. Trauma lives in cellular memory, not just the brain. When we experience a traumatic event such as what […]

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  • Communication and Trust During Times of Chaos

    It is virtually impossible to go through a day without communication. We communicate in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, and more. The messages can include clues such as tone, body language, facial expressions, and our perspective. During times of chaos and uncertainty, it is even more essential that we begin our conversations with care and compassion. In stressful periods, many experience fear, worry, and anxiety. And those that have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization. There is much potential in communication – the potential for productivity or for misunderstanding. We can all think […]

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January 2022

  • The Impact of Fear and 20 Ways to Minimize It

    Chronic fear impacts our physical health, memory, brain processing, and our mental health. This article will explain what happens in our brains and bodies when we experience fear and ways that we can move from fear to resilience. We feel the emotion fear when we are threatened. The perceived threat can be either physical, psychological, or emotional and can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear can help to keep us safe by motivating us to take action that will prevent us from harm. […]

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September 2019

  • Does Cultural Fit make for Group Think?

    In advising clients we often mention the cultural fit of an organization.  Do you like ping pong tables next to your desk?  Is the organization one where all-nighters are part of how the work gets done?  In looking at culture on your way in you certainly want one where your core values are in alignment.  Violating this maxim creates a stressful work environment.  I would suggest that if you do take a position violating the rule of alignment of your basic core values (the gap between your values and the values of the organization) you create a space for stress […]

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August 2019

  • Are You Agile Enough?

    What does it mean to be agile?  How many businesses do you know that espouse agility but couldn’t find it in the dictionary?  There are a lot of demands in the commercial world-Faster-Better-Cheaper.  And on top of that the other guys—whoever they may be—are already doing it, so now you’re in catch up mode.  In this WSJ article by Sue Shellenbarger she discusses the pros, cons and potential harm of corporate agility.  Enjoy!!!

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  • Overqualified or Unemployed, What Kind of Choice is That?

    Ok, you’ve got great experience, killer credentials, you score the first interview, then the second.  And then you get the call, “we appreciate your submittal and participation in this process, however we going with a candidate who is a closer match to our needs.”  “Wait” you say, “my resume looks almost exactly like your requirements, in fact a little better.” “Too much,” they say, “you’re OVERQUALIFIED.”  The kiss of death, or is it?  Organizations want hungry applicants who meet their needs but not too much experience.  Sometimes the overqualified rejection seems like a veiled age discrimination, but it can happen […]

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July 2019

  • Boss Management 201

    So ….. have a new boss?  And perhaps you’ve heard off bosses like this — demanding, unrealistically demanding, not supportive, perhaps you’ve even questioned they’re emotional stability with other members of the management team.  A little while back we had a GCS Roundtable discussion on boss management, we touched briefly on how to engage and manage bosses like this.  Bosses who aren’t team players who impressed the hiring committee with their take charge, self-confidence, change agent presentation. You can’t hide from such a leader.  In fact, you mustn’t take these tirades, or put downs personally. This is your opportunity to […]

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May 2019

  • The Challenges of Finding that First Job

    The ever changing career market throws challenges at seekers as they try to out think employers desires.  I have seen a number of graduates working hard to give employers what they want.  First a graduate degree, then intern experience and now it would seem that job experience helps to set one apart from the crowd.  How does a student and ultimately a graduate find and secure the position they desire? First, have a target.  Internships, graduate degrees and work experience will not add much to your resume if there isn’t a target in mind.  As you gather your education create […]

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March 2019

  • Making your next interview work for you

    Perhaps you’ve had this experience, you interview with a potential new employer, or for a promotion/job change within your existing employer, its a great interview from your standpoint but you don’t get the nod. It isn’t always easy to find that right combination to get to that next step and I don’t have a silver bullet to offer you to overcome resistance. But, you can make some extra preparations for that interview. Be prepared to tell a story about how you overcame adversity to meet a goal. Include as many details as appropriate, you see we remember stories, particularly real […]

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February 2019

  • Promotions can Change more than just your office.

    So you’ve been at your current position for sometime, you’ve achieved some success and you’ve established a number of relationships. The boss, noticing your effort and your success, extends a promotion. Its just what you were hoping for, more salary and the chance to impact the direction of your organization. You turn around to celebrate with your friends and … where did they go? You’d like to think that a title change would not affect your relationships, but it does. How you manage that effectively is key to avoid misunderstanding and confusion, In this article from the Wall Street Journal, […]

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January 2019

  • Another reorganization, is it time to head for the exit?

    We’ve all experienced a company reorganization. Sometimes its economically driven, sometimes it is new ownership, it always causes anxiety. It often surprised me how quickly my co-workers would want to head for the exits before the reorganization was fully rolled out, before they knew how it might affect them. There’s a great deal of emotion expended in a reorganization many times leading to irrational choices. My question often was how can moving to a new company you don’t really know be better than staying where you are and finding out your new role? But, sometimes its just reorg fatigue, too […]

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  • Is it time in your career to yield, make a u-turn, or exit?

    We all work hard to make our careers a success. This can be a detailed plan, it might be an opportunistic path as others pursue you, or it could be that as you reach each point you merely look for the next step. In many situations there comes a time of re-evaluation. Is this leading to where I thought I was headed? Can I afford to stay in this job? Do I have to check my personal values at the door each day to follow through on my assignments. Under conditions where you are challenged each day, where the space […]

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December 2018

  • The Impromptu Speech, rational or rambling?

    Some years ago the manufacturing company where I was VP was about to embark on a major change.  It was important enough that the president wanted to hold a company wide meeting first thing on Monday morning.  Over the weekend I considered how I would approach this topic and the major points.  Monday morning we settled into our cafeteria, the only room big enough, the president came in and started.  “I suppose you’re all wondering why we’re meeting this morning” … “Steve’s got something to tell you,” he said pointing at me.  Wow, talk about impromptu.  I was blessed.  I […]

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  • Career Advice in 3 Words

    Everyday we get advice from all around us.  What to do, what not to do, the best phone, car, etc.  Here is some great investment advice:  Invest in Yourself!  As The Golden Course strives to impress upon clients — reflection upon and improvement of your skills is always valuable.  The skills we focus on and hone during our coaching serve clients not only in their career search, but in community, family and in their new career.  In this Inc. article Warren Buffet speaks to the value of Investing in Yourself.  Advice can be basic, but even basic advice is important.  Cement […]

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November 2018

  • Gratitude makes for happier people, and a more successful business

    Ah, the simple things.  Gratitude.  Grateful people are happy people.  “What have I got to be grateful for?” you might ask.  Indeed, there are those days, those seasons in our life when we might start to believe that we don’t have much to be thankful for.  Perhaps our boss steals our ideas, haven’t had a review or raise in 3 years, the company let me go with no warning or negative feedback ever, my co-workers are cliquish,  and my secretary talks behind my back.   It certainly sound like we’re asking you to drink the Kool-Aid to say there is a […]

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  • Does it pay to be nice?

    So, is civility just a garnish on the plate of business?  We grew up learning how to be nice to those around us, sometimes that gets lost in the busyness of business.  I recall an incident years ago, the factory had a high pressure line break and I shouted to the supervisor to, “Go, shut it off right now!”   He stopped came back and asked if it was too much trouble for me to say, “Please.”  I was completely taken aback.  That said, I have been guilty in the past of sacrificing relationship on the altar of expediency.  I did […]

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October 2018

  • What is Leadership and Who make the best Leaders?

    For a long time businesses have looked for that over the top, larger than life personality to lead.  But is that really what benefits the organization.  Think about the leaders you’ve known in your work life, think about historical leaders and consider what traits serve best.  Oh, sure there is the strong leader who is able to push, pull, or throw the organization against a goal, but what is the steady form of leadership that draws the best out of the team.  A super star doesn’t get the job done, unless the rest of the team is engaged and plays […]

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July 2018

  • Less is more … Happiness comes in small packages

    So what is the basis of happiness?  We often hear money can’t buy happiness, but then most of our time, attention, and effort goes into making more money.  Happiness just may be aligning our efforts with our core values, the more divergent our work is from our core values the more stress and anxiety we experience.  But there is more, sometimes we need to get the stuff out of the way.  Check out this TED talk called, “Less stuff, More Happiness.”

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  • Change takes time…

    We can be in a big hurry to move through change, to gain closure, to put it all behind us.  But is this really the case?  Change, whether it is perceived as good or bad requires us to leave something behind.  When we graduate we leave behind some rather happy times as a student.  When we marry we leave the single life, and even though we prefer to be married (most days), we have to recognize that we have chosen a new life over the old. The old life is not forgotten, nor do we want to put it behind […]

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Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 15, 2025

From Pruning to Growth: What Plant Care Can Teach Us About Employee Well-being

Recently, while pruning plants that had suffered from sun and water stress, I noticed that after pruning, beautiful new growth emerged rapidly. This experience inspired me to express the importance of leaders in fostering similar rejuvenation in their teams by addressing stress and promoting a supportive and collaborative work environment.

Recognizing Stress

The leaves of my Hosta plants were not just yellowed; they were browning and droopy. Before this recent experience, I did not enjoy working with plants. But on this day, I spent over three hours tending to our plants and garden, and for the first time, I understood why so many find working with plants relaxing. I completely lost track of time and fully enjoyed the task at hand. As I pruned the dead leaves, I was amazed to see all the tiny new growth hidden from sight. I realized I wouldn’t have seen this beautiful growth if I hadn’t pruned. I wondered, “What do I need to prune in my life so that it is easier to see the beauty in my life?” Then, “As a leader, what needs pruning to improve employee relationships for improved performance, productivity and enjoyment. Enjoyment is often overlooked, but according to the Harrison Assessment’s Enjoyment Performance methodology, “Measuring work satisfaction is essential to determine motivation and forecast whether an individual will prosper, succeed and stay with the organization.” If a team member enjoys at least 75% or more of their job, they are three times more likely to succeed.[i]

Effects of Stress

When we have too much stress in our lives, we show up with less energy, disengagement, irritability, and a lack of focus. Stress impacts all four domains: emotional, mental, physical and spiritual. For example, if you have a stressful encounter, when you go back to your desk, you are more likely to make an error. If you don’t reduce stress in the moment and become coherent, you may experience physical symptoms such as an upset stomach, headache, or muscle tension. Next, you may be less motivated to help when someone asks for support.

Similar to a plant’s dormancy, leaders may face quality issues, missed deadlines, increased accidents, and poor attendance. The Workplace Well-Being in 2025: Insights from the Workplace and Employee Survey, released by the WebMD Health Services Center for Research, found that employees with a strong perception of organizational care report 56% higher engagement, 37% lower burnout, and greater retention compared to those who feel less supported. Outside of work, they also experience higher overall well-being and life satisfaction.”[ii]

“Pruning” in the Workplace

Removing what’s not serving growth creates space for renewal. Identify what is destroying innovation, creativity, and excellence. Use assessments, like the Harrison Assessment, to learn more about your personnel to understand them better, build team cohesiveness, and improve employee engagement. Create a sustainable system for talent motivation and inspiration to align with the organization’s values and mission. Your workforce wants to know that you value and appreciate them. Provide resources such as custom training/workshops, external coaching, and assessments. Recognize improvements and achievements in a way that resonates with the individual, whether that be a public announcement or a private moment to express appreciation and gratitude.

Conclusion

Just as removing decaying leaves allows plants to flourish, when nurturing talent and removing obstacles, organizations witness increased engagement, heightened productivity, stronger retention, and enhanced quality standards. Effective leadership cultivates an environment where team members can reach their full potential, just as a sturdy trellis enables vines to climb higher than they could alone. Is your organization poised for its next growth phase? We’d love to help!

About Stacey W. Bevill

Stacey loves working with leaders, teams, entrepreneurs and individuals who are ready for transformation. SC Biz News included Bevill as an honoree on their 2024 Manufacturing Power List. She serves on the board of the South Carolina Roundtable, part of the Council of Supply Chain Management Professionals (CSCMP), and the Board of Trustees for the University Center of Greenville. She is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC)and a Board-Certified Coach (BCC). She holds many credentials and is passionate about developing rising stars, communication, resiliency, well-being, employee retention and engagement. You can find her bio and CV here/. Call 864-527-0425 or email stacey@goldencareerstrategies.com for a complimentary consultation.

About Golden Career Strategies (GCS)

GCS helps organizations maximize their employees’ effectiveness and potential by providing innovative organizational and leadership development, assessments, team and individual coaching, custom training and workshops, onboarding, and outplacement services. For individuals, GCS offers a range of tailored services, including many assessments, coaching and consulting, and The Golden Career Course™ for outplacement or individuals. GCS individual clients include executives in transition, recent college graduates, those seeking encore careers, entrepreneurs, and others. Let’s talk! Complimentary consultations can be scheduled online at www.goldencareerstrategies.com

April 2026

  • Taming Everyday Lions

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff April 6, 2025 Have you ever been to a circus and watched a lion tamer with a four-legged stool? While the effectiveness of using a stool against a lion is debatable and not scientifically proven, the idea that a four-legged stool can prevent a lion from attacking is an intriguing concept that combines elements of animal behavior, psychology, and human ingenuity. Let’s examine the reasoning behind this unconventional defense strategy and explore how to apply these concepts to tame the lions in your life. Visual Confusion The primary theory behind using a stool against a lion revolves around visual […]

    Read More
  • From Pruning to Growth: What Plant Care Can Teach Us About Employee Well-being

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 15, 2025 Recently, while pruning plants that had suffered from sun and water stress, I noticed that after pruning, beautiful new growth emerged rapidly. This experience inspired me to express the importance of leaders in fostering similar rejuvenation in their teams by addressing stress and promoting a supportive and collaborative work environment. Recognizing Stress The leaves of my Hosta plants were not just yellowed; they were browning and droopy. Before this recent experience, I did not enjoy working with plants. But on this day, I spent over three hours tending to our plants and garden, and for the […]

    Read More
  • Golden Career Strategies President Stacey Bevill Earns Harrison Assessments Debriefing and Coaching Accreditation

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 2, 2022 Stacey Bevill, Owner and President of Golden Career Strategies, recently became a certified Harrison Assessment provider. Harrison Assessments’ Talent Solutions Platform empowers businesses and leaders across the globe to create engaged, fulfilled and high-performing teams by providing insights for talent acquisition, employee development, team development, leadership and succession planning, employee engagement and organizational analytics. Harrison’s award-winning, cloud-based technology provides secure, job-specific predictive analytics designed to enhance the candidate and employee experiences. Organizations save time and money by utilizing Harrison’s assessment science and technology to hire the best candidates, validate high potentials, and accelerate individual and team […]

    Read More
  • Golden Career Strategies CEO Stacey Bevill Earns Specialty Designations for Board Certified Coach (BCC) Credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE)

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 6, 2022 Stacey Bevill, BCC, PCC, MPM®, is one of fewer than 12 Board Certified Coaches in the Greenville-Spartanburg area and part of an elite group of only 66 in the entire state of South Carolina.  Stacey Bevill, Owner and CEO of Golden Career Strategies, recently earned two prestigious specialty designations for her Board Certified Coach (BCC) credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE). These specialty designations are voluntary accompaniments to the BCC credential emphasizing areas of expertise. Bevill’s specialty designations include Executive/Corporate/Business/Leadership Coach and Career Coach. The BCC credential is a mark of distinction for credential holders and a source […]

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  • Team Engagement and Collaboration in a Hybrid World

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff June 1, 2022 Unprecedented Stress Over the last couple of years, employees have experienced unprecedented stress from external sources including significant losses or changes, health issues, social division and more, all while managing their personal and professional obligations. As a result, employment expectations for both employers and their employees have shifted and will continue to change. Work View Shifts One primary shift is how employees view work. They want a position that is more closely aligned with personal values. Many want their job to have a purpose in their life and not just a way to make a living. […]

    Read More

March 2024

  • Identifying and Removing Stressors

    This summer I addressed little things in my life that either annoyed me or added stress. Once identified, it was easy to take action. Below are a few examples. I hope you will be inspired to identify and remove some of your own stressors. 1. Every morning I felt frustrated with having dirt and dog hair on the kitchen floor. Action: Bought a robot vacuum. Result: A smile each morning as I see the floors and empty the vacuum. Love it so much we now have one for the carpeted rooms and will be getting one for the upstairs. 2. […]

    Read More
  • Peace Begins with Me

    Recently I attended a Peace Conference. Early in the day we were told that “peace begins with us.” Peace begins with us. I have been contemplating those four simple words since the conference. Peace is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as “In a general sense, a state of quiet or tranquility; freedom from disturbance or agitation; applicable to society, to individuals, or to the temper of the mind.” If peace begins with our own ability to enjoy peace, what are our chances for peace beyond us? How many of us have peace in our daily lives? Today during my morning walk […]

    Read More
  • Resolve to be a Better Communicator

    A study by the Joint Commission for Transforming Healthcare revealed that up to 80 percent of serious medical errors can be attributed to miscommunication among medical staff. The good news is that we can easily learn skills to help us communicate more effectively and improve our business and personal relationships. Making effective requests of others is an integral part of good communication in the workplace and at home. But many of us haven’t learned how to deliver a concise request with clear expectations. Oftentimes, we expect others to read our minds or intuitively know how to respond to our requests. […]

    Read More
  • Being Compassionate in a Time of Crisis

      If I had to pick one word to describe what we need during this time, that word would be compassion. Compassion for self and compassion for others. Why compassion? When we are under duress or experiencing stress we are more likely to make mistakes, communicate less effectively and present with emotions and behaviors that vary from our norm. For many, the changes and the challenges that we are currently facing trigger unresolved grief or trauma. We feel rocked to our core. Trauma lives in cellular memory, not just the brain. When we experience a traumatic event such as what […]

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  • Communication and Trust During Times of Chaos

    It is virtually impossible to go through a day without communication. We communicate in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, and more. The messages can include clues such as tone, body language, facial expressions, and our perspective. During times of chaos and uncertainty, it is even more essential that we begin our conversations with care and compassion. In stressful periods, many experience fear, worry, and anxiety. And those that have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization. There is much potential in communication – the potential for productivity or for misunderstanding. We can all think […]

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January 2022

  • The Impact of Fear and 20 Ways to Minimize It

    Chronic fear impacts our physical health, memory, brain processing, and our mental health. This article will explain what happens in our brains and bodies when we experience fear and ways that we can move from fear to resilience. We feel the emotion fear when we are threatened. The perceived threat can be either physical, psychological, or emotional and can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear can help to keep us safe by motivating us to take action that will prevent us from harm. […]

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September 2019

  • Does Cultural Fit make for Group Think?

    In advising clients we often mention the cultural fit of an organization.  Do you like ping pong tables next to your desk?  Is the organization one where all-nighters are part of how the work gets done?  In looking at culture on your way in you certainly want one where your core values are in alignment.  Violating this maxim creates a stressful work environment.  I would suggest that if you do take a position violating the rule of alignment of your basic core values (the gap between your values and the values of the organization) you create a space for stress […]

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August 2019

  • Are You Agile Enough?

    What does it mean to be agile?  How many businesses do you know that espouse agility but couldn’t find it in the dictionary?  There are a lot of demands in the commercial world-Faster-Better-Cheaper.  And on top of that the other guys—whoever they may be—are already doing it, so now you’re in catch up mode.  In this WSJ article by Sue Shellenbarger she discusses the pros, cons and potential harm of corporate agility.  Enjoy!!!

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  • Overqualified or Unemployed, What Kind of Choice is That?

    Ok, you’ve got great experience, killer credentials, you score the first interview, then the second.  And then you get the call, “we appreciate your submittal and participation in this process, however we going with a candidate who is a closer match to our needs.”  “Wait” you say, “my resume looks almost exactly like your requirements, in fact a little better.” “Too much,” they say, “you’re OVERQUALIFIED.”  The kiss of death, or is it?  Organizations want hungry applicants who meet their needs but not too much experience.  Sometimes the overqualified rejection seems like a veiled age discrimination, but it can happen […]

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July 2019

  • Boss Management 201

    So ….. have a new boss?  And perhaps you’ve heard off bosses like this — demanding, unrealistically demanding, not supportive, perhaps you’ve even questioned they’re emotional stability with other members of the management team.  A little while back we had a GCS Roundtable discussion on boss management, we touched briefly on how to engage and manage bosses like this.  Bosses who aren’t team players who impressed the hiring committee with their take charge, self-confidence, change agent presentation. You can’t hide from such a leader.  In fact, you mustn’t take these tirades, or put downs personally. This is your opportunity to […]

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May 2019

  • The Challenges of Finding that First Job

    The ever changing career market throws challenges at seekers as they try to out think employers desires.  I have seen a number of graduates working hard to give employers what they want.  First a graduate degree, then intern experience and now it would seem that job experience helps to set one apart from the crowd.  How does a student and ultimately a graduate find and secure the position they desire? First, have a target.  Internships, graduate degrees and work experience will not add much to your resume if there isn’t a target in mind.  As you gather your education create […]

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March 2019

  • Making your next interview work for you

    Perhaps you’ve had this experience, you interview with a potential new employer, or for a promotion/job change within your existing employer, its a great interview from your standpoint but you don’t get the nod. It isn’t always easy to find that right combination to get to that next step and I don’t have a silver bullet to offer you to overcome resistance. But, you can make some extra preparations for that interview. Be prepared to tell a story about how you overcame adversity to meet a goal. Include as many details as appropriate, you see we remember stories, particularly real […]

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February 2019

  • Promotions can Change more than just your office.

    So you’ve been at your current position for sometime, you’ve achieved some success and you’ve established a number of relationships. The boss, noticing your effort and your success, extends a promotion. Its just what you were hoping for, more salary and the chance to impact the direction of your organization. You turn around to celebrate with your friends and … where did they go? You’d like to think that a title change would not affect your relationships, but it does. How you manage that effectively is key to avoid misunderstanding and confusion, In this article from the Wall Street Journal, […]

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January 2019

  • Another reorganization, is it time to head for the exit?

    We’ve all experienced a company reorganization. Sometimes its economically driven, sometimes it is new ownership, it always causes anxiety. It often surprised me how quickly my co-workers would want to head for the exits before the reorganization was fully rolled out, before they knew how it might affect them. There’s a great deal of emotion expended in a reorganization many times leading to irrational choices. My question often was how can moving to a new company you don’t really know be better than staying where you are and finding out your new role? But, sometimes its just reorg fatigue, too […]

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  • Is it time in your career to yield, make a u-turn, or exit?

    We all work hard to make our careers a success. This can be a detailed plan, it might be an opportunistic path as others pursue you, or it could be that as you reach each point you merely look for the next step. In many situations there comes a time of re-evaluation. Is this leading to where I thought I was headed? Can I afford to stay in this job? Do I have to check my personal values at the door each day to follow through on my assignments. Under conditions where you are challenged each day, where the space […]

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December 2018

  • The Impromptu Speech, rational or rambling?

    Some years ago the manufacturing company where I was VP was about to embark on a major change.  It was important enough that the president wanted to hold a company wide meeting first thing on Monday morning.  Over the weekend I considered how I would approach this topic and the major points.  Monday morning we settled into our cafeteria, the only room big enough, the president came in and started.  “I suppose you’re all wondering why we’re meeting this morning” … “Steve’s got something to tell you,” he said pointing at me.  Wow, talk about impromptu.  I was blessed.  I […]

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  • Career Advice in 3 Words

    Everyday we get advice from all around us.  What to do, what not to do, the best phone, car, etc.  Here is some great investment advice:  Invest in Yourself!  As The Golden Course strives to impress upon clients — reflection upon and improvement of your skills is always valuable.  The skills we focus on and hone during our coaching serve clients not only in their career search, but in community, family and in their new career.  In this Inc. article Warren Buffet speaks to the value of Investing in Yourself.  Advice can be basic, but even basic advice is important.  Cement […]

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November 2018

  • Gratitude makes for happier people, and a more successful business

    Ah, the simple things.  Gratitude.  Grateful people are happy people.  “What have I got to be grateful for?” you might ask.  Indeed, there are those days, those seasons in our life when we might start to believe that we don’t have much to be thankful for.  Perhaps our boss steals our ideas, haven’t had a review or raise in 3 years, the company let me go with no warning or negative feedback ever, my co-workers are cliquish,  and my secretary talks behind my back.   It certainly sound like we’re asking you to drink the Kool-Aid to say there is a […]

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  • Does it pay to be nice?

    So, is civility just a garnish on the plate of business?  We grew up learning how to be nice to those around us, sometimes that gets lost in the busyness of business.  I recall an incident years ago, the factory had a high pressure line break and I shouted to the supervisor to, “Go, shut it off right now!”   He stopped came back and asked if it was too much trouble for me to say, “Please.”  I was completely taken aback.  That said, I have been guilty in the past of sacrificing relationship on the altar of expediency.  I did […]

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October 2018

  • What is Leadership and Who make the best Leaders?

    For a long time businesses have looked for that over the top, larger than life personality to lead.  But is that really what benefits the organization.  Think about the leaders you’ve known in your work life, think about historical leaders and consider what traits serve best.  Oh, sure there is the strong leader who is able to push, pull, or throw the organization against a goal, but what is the steady form of leadership that draws the best out of the team.  A super star doesn’t get the job done, unless the rest of the team is engaged and plays […]

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July 2018

  • Less is more … Happiness comes in small packages

    So what is the basis of happiness?  We often hear money can’t buy happiness, but then most of our time, attention, and effort goes into making more money.  Happiness just may be aligning our efforts with our core values, the more divergent our work is from our core values the more stress and anxiety we experience.  But there is more, sometimes we need to get the stuff out of the way.  Check out this TED talk called, “Less stuff, More Happiness.”

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  • Change takes time…

    We can be in a big hurry to move through change, to gain closure, to put it all behind us.  But is this really the case?  Change, whether it is perceived as good or bad requires us to leave something behind.  When we graduate we leave behind some rather happy times as a student.  When we marry we leave the single life, and even though we prefer to be married (most days), we have to recognize that we have chosen a new life over the old. The old life is not forgotten, nor do we want to put it behind […]

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Posted By: SCMFG/Staff June 1, 2022

Hybrid or onsite work symbol. Businessman turns cubes and changes words 'onsite work' to 'hybrid work'. Beautiful white background. Business, hybrid or onsite working concept, copy space.

Unprecedented Stress
Over the last couple of years, employees have experienced unprecedented stress from external sources including significant losses or changes, health issues, social division and more, all while managing their personal and professional obligations. As a result, employment expectations for both employers and their employees have shifted and will continue to change.

Work View Shifts
One primary shift is how employees view work. They want a position that is more closely aligned with personal values. Many want their job to have a purpose in their life and not just a way to make a living. Since Covid, employees have a deeper appreciation overall for health and well-being. They are stepping away from the “always-on” culture in exchange for quality time with loved ones, hobbies and wellness.

For engagement and collaboration, employers and managers must both identify and effectively communicate the value of office time over commute time as employees come back to the office. Many working at home (or in other spaces) believe that they are more productive when they don’t have to travel to the office. They will need to embrace the when and why for buy-in since more time at the office will also lead to less autonomy and flexibility.

Here are a few tips to increase team engagement and collaboration:

Empower Managers
Empower your managers. Provide coach training to guide managers on how to coach their staff. Give them necessary resources. Managers need freedom to implement flexible options to acknowledge ongoing change. Provide coaching to managers for greater self-awareness. When managers view their leadership role as an integral part of their job, this awareness enables successfully engaged and collaborative teams to emerge.

Improve Conversational Intelligence®
Lack of effective communication is typically listed in the top three complaints in company surveys. Offer training to help your team learn what breaks down communication and what enables beneficial conversations. Productive, quality conversations save time and energy while providing clear direction for next steps and expectations. Enable team members to move from distrust and resistance to partnerships and co-creation. This type of training will enable employees to shift from emotional triggers and potential conflict to mutual respect and withholding judgment for effective communication.

Prioritize employee engagement

Prioritize Employee Engagement
Create guidelines for collaboration and communication and include regular opportunities for brainstorming and support. Working remotely and hybrid can lead to feelings of disconnection. Include a plan to record or document all important conversations so that the entire team has easy access to them. Be sure to acknowledge and reward team members for exceptional contributions when appropriate. Employees want to feel heard, valued and supported. To increase employee engagement and retention, engage in conversations that explore topics such as how they would like to grow or be supported. Intentional engagement strengthens the team, which leads to less absenteeism, lower turnover, and increased profits.

Core Takeaways
When employees feel heard and have a foundation of trust, they are more likely to be engaged and serve as effective collaborators. Additionally. for the transition back to the workplace to be successful, employees need to feel safe physically, mentally, and emotionally. Employees are more likely to feel fulfilled and productive and enjoy increased well-being when they have strong relationships at work. A hybrid workplace can be the hub that connects and engages your teams.

Organizations that provide coaching, and mentorship along with training on topics such as enhanced communication, building resiliency and emotional intelligence will have a definite advantage. A commitment to listening by management will significantly improve team engagement and collaboration and increase employee retention.

Let’s connect for a complimentary consultation if you want to learn more. Please schedule a time via our website: www.goldencareerstategies.com or call Stacey at 864-527-0425.

April 2026

  • Taming Everyday Lions

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff April 6, 2025 Have you ever been to a circus and watched a lion tamer with a four-legged stool? While the effectiveness of using a stool against a lion is debatable and not scientifically proven, the idea that a four-legged stool can prevent a lion from attacking is an intriguing concept that combines elements of animal behavior, psychology, and human ingenuity. Let’s examine the reasoning behind this unconventional defense strategy and explore how to apply these concepts to tame the lions in your life. Visual Confusion The primary theory behind using a stool against a lion revolves around visual […]

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  • From Pruning to Growth: What Plant Care Can Teach Us About Employee Well-being

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 15, 2025 Recently, while pruning plants that had suffered from sun and water stress, I noticed that after pruning, beautiful new growth emerged rapidly. This experience inspired me to express the importance of leaders in fostering similar rejuvenation in their teams by addressing stress and promoting a supportive and collaborative work environment. Recognizing Stress The leaves of my Hosta plants were not just yellowed; they were browning and droopy. Before this recent experience, I did not enjoy working with plants. But on this day, I spent over three hours tending to our plants and garden, and for the […]

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  • Golden Career Strategies President Stacey Bevill Earns Harrison Assessments Debriefing and Coaching Accreditation

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 2, 2022 Stacey Bevill, Owner and President of Golden Career Strategies, recently became a certified Harrison Assessment provider. Harrison Assessments’ Talent Solutions Platform empowers businesses and leaders across the globe to create engaged, fulfilled and high-performing teams by providing insights for talent acquisition, employee development, team development, leadership and succession planning, employee engagement and organizational analytics. Harrison’s award-winning, cloud-based technology provides secure, job-specific predictive analytics designed to enhance the candidate and employee experiences. Organizations save time and money by utilizing Harrison’s assessment science and technology to hire the best candidates, validate high potentials, and accelerate individual and team […]

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  • Golden Career Strategies CEO Stacey Bevill Earns Specialty Designations for Board Certified Coach (BCC) Credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE)

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 6, 2022 Stacey Bevill, BCC, PCC, MPM®, is one of fewer than 12 Board Certified Coaches in the Greenville-Spartanburg area and part of an elite group of only 66 in the entire state of South Carolina.  Stacey Bevill, Owner and CEO of Golden Career Strategies, recently earned two prestigious specialty designations for her Board Certified Coach (BCC) credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE). These specialty designations are voluntary accompaniments to the BCC credential emphasizing areas of expertise. Bevill’s specialty designations include Executive/Corporate/Business/Leadership Coach and Career Coach. The BCC credential is a mark of distinction for credential holders and a source […]

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  • Team Engagement and Collaboration in a Hybrid World

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff June 1, 2022 Unprecedented Stress Over the last couple of years, employees have experienced unprecedented stress from external sources including significant losses or changes, health issues, social division and more, all while managing their personal and professional obligations. As a result, employment expectations for both employers and their employees have shifted and will continue to change. Work View Shifts One primary shift is how employees view work. They want a position that is more closely aligned with personal values. Many want their job to have a purpose in their life and not just a way to make a living. […]

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March 2024

  • Identifying and Removing Stressors

    This summer I addressed little things in my life that either annoyed me or added stress. Once identified, it was easy to take action. Below are a few examples. I hope you will be inspired to identify and remove some of your own stressors. 1. Every morning I felt frustrated with having dirt and dog hair on the kitchen floor. Action: Bought a robot vacuum. Result: A smile each morning as I see the floors and empty the vacuum. Love it so much we now have one for the carpeted rooms and will be getting one for the upstairs. 2. […]

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  • Peace Begins with Me

    Recently I attended a Peace Conference. Early in the day we were told that “peace begins with us.” Peace begins with us. I have been contemplating those four simple words since the conference. Peace is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as “In a general sense, a state of quiet or tranquility; freedom from disturbance or agitation; applicable to society, to individuals, or to the temper of the mind.” If peace begins with our own ability to enjoy peace, what are our chances for peace beyond us? How many of us have peace in our daily lives? Today during my morning walk […]

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  • Resolve to be a Better Communicator

    A study by the Joint Commission for Transforming Healthcare revealed that up to 80 percent of serious medical errors can be attributed to miscommunication among medical staff. The good news is that we can easily learn skills to help us communicate more effectively and improve our business and personal relationships. Making effective requests of others is an integral part of good communication in the workplace and at home. But many of us haven’t learned how to deliver a concise request with clear expectations. Oftentimes, we expect others to read our minds or intuitively know how to respond to our requests. […]

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  • Being Compassionate in a Time of Crisis

      If I had to pick one word to describe what we need during this time, that word would be compassion. Compassion for self and compassion for others. Why compassion? When we are under duress or experiencing stress we are more likely to make mistakes, communicate less effectively and present with emotions and behaviors that vary from our norm. For many, the changes and the challenges that we are currently facing trigger unresolved grief or trauma. We feel rocked to our core. Trauma lives in cellular memory, not just the brain. When we experience a traumatic event such as what […]

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  • Communication and Trust During Times of Chaos

    It is virtually impossible to go through a day without communication. We communicate in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, and more. The messages can include clues such as tone, body language, facial expressions, and our perspective. During times of chaos and uncertainty, it is even more essential that we begin our conversations with care and compassion. In stressful periods, many experience fear, worry, and anxiety. And those that have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization. There is much potential in communication – the potential for productivity or for misunderstanding. We can all think […]

    Read More

January 2022

  • The Impact of Fear and 20 Ways to Minimize It

    Chronic fear impacts our physical health, memory, brain processing, and our mental health. This article will explain what happens in our brains and bodies when we experience fear and ways that we can move from fear to resilience. We feel the emotion fear when we are threatened. The perceived threat can be either physical, psychological, or emotional and can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear can help to keep us safe by motivating us to take action that will prevent us from harm. […]

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September 2019

  • Does Cultural Fit make for Group Think?

    In advising clients we often mention the cultural fit of an organization.  Do you like ping pong tables next to your desk?  Is the organization one where all-nighters are part of how the work gets done?  In looking at culture on your way in you certainly want one where your core values are in alignment.  Violating this maxim creates a stressful work environment.  I would suggest that if you do take a position violating the rule of alignment of your basic core values (the gap between your values and the values of the organization) you create a space for stress […]

    Read More

August 2019

  • Are You Agile Enough?

    What does it mean to be agile?  How many businesses do you know that espouse agility but couldn’t find it in the dictionary?  There are a lot of demands in the commercial world-Faster-Better-Cheaper.  And on top of that the other guys—whoever they may be—are already doing it, so now you’re in catch up mode.  In this WSJ article by Sue Shellenbarger she discusses the pros, cons and potential harm of corporate agility.  Enjoy!!!

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  • Overqualified or Unemployed, What Kind of Choice is That?

    Ok, you’ve got great experience, killer credentials, you score the first interview, then the second.  And then you get the call, “we appreciate your submittal and participation in this process, however we going with a candidate who is a closer match to our needs.”  “Wait” you say, “my resume looks almost exactly like your requirements, in fact a little better.” “Too much,” they say, “you’re OVERQUALIFIED.”  The kiss of death, or is it?  Organizations want hungry applicants who meet their needs but not too much experience.  Sometimes the overqualified rejection seems like a veiled age discrimination, but it can happen […]

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July 2019

  • Boss Management 201

    So ….. have a new boss?  And perhaps you’ve heard off bosses like this — demanding, unrealistically demanding, not supportive, perhaps you’ve even questioned they’re emotional stability with other members of the management team.  A little while back we had a GCS Roundtable discussion on boss management, we touched briefly on how to engage and manage bosses like this.  Bosses who aren’t team players who impressed the hiring committee with their take charge, self-confidence, change agent presentation. You can’t hide from such a leader.  In fact, you mustn’t take these tirades, or put downs personally. This is your opportunity to […]

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May 2019

  • The Challenges of Finding that First Job

    The ever changing career market throws challenges at seekers as they try to out think employers desires.  I have seen a number of graduates working hard to give employers what they want.  First a graduate degree, then intern experience and now it would seem that job experience helps to set one apart from the crowd.  How does a student and ultimately a graduate find and secure the position they desire? First, have a target.  Internships, graduate degrees and work experience will not add much to your resume if there isn’t a target in mind.  As you gather your education create […]

    Read More

March 2019

  • Making your next interview work for you

    Perhaps you’ve had this experience, you interview with a potential new employer, or for a promotion/job change within your existing employer, its a great interview from your standpoint but you don’t get the nod. It isn’t always easy to find that right combination to get to that next step and I don’t have a silver bullet to offer you to overcome resistance. But, you can make some extra preparations for that interview. Be prepared to tell a story about how you overcame adversity to meet a goal. Include as many details as appropriate, you see we remember stories, particularly real […]

    Read More

February 2019

  • Promotions can Change more than just your office.

    So you’ve been at your current position for sometime, you’ve achieved some success and you’ve established a number of relationships. The boss, noticing your effort and your success, extends a promotion. Its just what you were hoping for, more salary and the chance to impact the direction of your organization. You turn around to celebrate with your friends and … where did they go? You’d like to think that a title change would not affect your relationships, but it does. How you manage that effectively is key to avoid misunderstanding and confusion, In this article from the Wall Street Journal, […]

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January 2019

  • Another reorganization, is it time to head for the exit?

    We’ve all experienced a company reorganization. Sometimes its economically driven, sometimes it is new ownership, it always causes anxiety. It often surprised me how quickly my co-workers would want to head for the exits before the reorganization was fully rolled out, before they knew how it might affect them. There’s a great deal of emotion expended in a reorganization many times leading to irrational choices. My question often was how can moving to a new company you don’t really know be better than staying where you are and finding out your new role? But, sometimes its just reorg fatigue, too […]

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  • Is it time in your career to yield, make a u-turn, or exit?

    We all work hard to make our careers a success. This can be a detailed plan, it might be an opportunistic path as others pursue you, or it could be that as you reach each point you merely look for the next step. In many situations there comes a time of re-evaluation. Is this leading to where I thought I was headed? Can I afford to stay in this job? Do I have to check my personal values at the door each day to follow through on my assignments. Under conditions where you are challenged each day, where the space […]

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December 2018

  • The Impromptu Speech, rational or rambling?

    Some years ago the manufacturing company where I was VP was about to embark on a major change.  It was important enough that the president wanted to hold a company wide meeting first thing on Monday morning.  Over the weekend I considered how I would approach this topic and the major points.  Monday morning we settled into our cafeteria, the only room big enough, the president came in and started.  “I suppose you’re all wondering why we’re meeting this morning” … “Steve’s got something to tell you,” he said pointing at me.  Wow, talk about impromptu.  I was blessed.  I […]

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  • Career Advice in 3 Words

    Everyday we get advice from all around us.  What to do, what not to do, the best phone, car, etc.  Here is some great investment advice:  Invest in Yourself!  As The Golden Course strives to impress upon clients — reflection upon and improvement of your skills is always valuable.  The skills we focus on and hone during our coaching serve clients not only in their career search, but in community, family and in their new career.  In this Inc. article Warren Buffet speaks to the value of Investing in Yourself.  Advice can be basic, but even basic advice is important.  Cement […]

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November 2018

  • Gratitude makes for happier people, and a more successful business

    Ah, the simple things.  Gratitude.  Grateful people are happy people.  “What have I got to be grateful for?” you might ask.  Indeed, there are those days, those seasons in our life when we might start to believe that we don’t have much to be thankful for.  Perhaps our boss steals our ideas, haven’t had a review or raise in 3 years, the company let me go with no warning or negative feedback ever, my co-workers are cliquish,  and my secretary talks behind my back.   It certainly sound like we’re asking you to drink the Kool-Aid to say there is a […]

    Read More
  • Does it pay to be nice?

    So, is civility just a garnish on the plate of business?  We grew up learning how to be nice to those around us, sometimes that gets lost in the busyness of business.  I recall an incident years ago, the factory had a high pressure line break and I shouted to the supervisor to, “Go, shut it off right now!”   He stopped came back and asked if it was too much trouble for me to say, “Please.”  I was completely taken aback.  That said, I have been guilty in the past of sacrificing relationship on the altar of expediency.  I did […]

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October 2018

  • What is Leadership and Who make the best Leaders?

    For a long time businesses have looked for that over the top, larger than life personality to lead.  But is that really what benefits the organization.  Think about the leaders you’ve known in your work life, think about historical leaders and consider what traits serve best.  Oh, sure there is the strong leader who is able to push, pull, or throw the organization against a goal, but what is the steady form of leadership that draws the best out of the team.  A super star doesn’t get the job done, unless the rest of the team is engaged and plays […]

    Read More

July 2018

  • Less is more … Happiness comes in small packages

    So what is the basis of happiness?  We often hear money can’t buy happiness, but then most of our time, attention, and effort goes into making more money.  Happiness just may be aligning our efforts with our core values, the more divergent our work is from our core values the more stress and anxiety we experience.  But there is more, sometimes we need to get the stuff out of the way.  Check out this TED talk called, “Less stuff, More Happiness.”

    Read More
  • Change takes time…

    We can be in a big hurry to move through change, to gain closure, to put it all behind us.  But is this really the case?  Change, whether it is perceived as good or bad requires us to leave something behind.  When we graduate we leave behind some rather happy times as a student.  When we marry we leave the single life, and even though we prefer to be married (most days), we have to recognize that we have chosen a new life over the old. The old life is not forgotten, nor do we want to put it behind […]

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It is virtually impossible to go through a day without communication. We communicate in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, and more. The messages can include clues such as tone, body language, facial expressions, and our perspective.

During times of chaos and uncertainty, it is even more essential that we begin our conversations with care and compassion. In stressful periods, many experience fear, worry, and anxiety. And those that have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization.

There is much potential in communication – the potential for productivity or for misunderstanding.

We can all think of a time when a conversation activated feelings of anger or frustration. Ineffective communication often drains our energy and can affect motivation, performance, quality of work, and relationships. By nature, we shift into a protective mode when we feel threatened, making us unable to hear the actual message.

The good news is that we can learn to recognize when this is happening and change the pattern by simply slowing down our breath. As we take a moment to breathe in and out at a slower pace, our brain moves from a fight, flight, or freeze response. We can then choose how we respond. We can share how we feel, ask questions for clarification, and embody calm. When we are genuine and come to conversations with curiosity and respect, we create a coherence that leads to clarity and effectiveness in our communication.

Prepare yourself to listen
Before you begin a conversation that may create depleting emotions, consider preparing yourself by making an intention to be respectful and to listen for the real message. Before ending the conversation, confirm mutual understanding between those speaking. You can state what you heard and ask for confirmation or clarification. This extra step often serves to build trust and a foundation for future discussions.

Words are weighty
As leaders, teachers, or parents, it is essential to be aware that our words hold greater weight. For some, those words are commands and not suggestions, so being careful with our word choices can be essential. Aim to be aware of and sensitive to the reality that our word choices can demoralize or motivate others. If you sense discord, it is an opportunity to create mutual understanding and get back into alignment with shared goals and missions.

It can be challenging to hear a message if we don’t feel listened to, valued, or appreciated. Effective communication requires a level of mutual respect and trust. Trust is critical to effective communication. If we don’t trust someone, we are often unable to hear their message.

Take a moment and recall a time when someone’s words allowed you to connect to a renewing emotion, such as confidence or appreciation. You may also remember a time when you aligned with someone and felt heard, valued, or respected.

The first memory that came to me was from a conversation many years ago with a former boss. I had implemented new systems and created new programs for the organization, but I was unsuccessful in my attempts to be promoted. One day I asked him for a moment of his time and shared with him a prototype flyer I had created with the idea to start a new marketing business.

I felt a bit threatened because I didn’t know how he would respond and if he would start looking for my replacement. Instead, he leaned back in his chair, smiled, and said, “I am very proud of you. You are finally starting to see your potential.”

I did start that marketing company and have been serving others for more than 20 years. During the lean early years, I held on to his words and determined that his belief in me was enough to keep me motivated. That conversation could not have taken place without the safe space that included trust and respect.

What can we do to find our calm so that we can listen deeply to others and not assume we know what another is thinking or feeling? so that we can share effective and powerful conversations? What can you say or ask today that will lead to better understanding, compassion, care, and improved connection?

Interested in learning more about creating sustainable change for powerful conversations for you or your organization? Schedule a complimentary conversation.

April 2026

  • Taming Everyday Lions

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff April 6, 2025 Have you ever been to a circus and watched a lion tamer with a four-legged stool? While the effectiveness of using a stool against a lion is debatable and not scientifically proven, the idea that a four-legged stool can prevent a lion from attacking is an intriguing concept that combines elements of animal behavior, psychology, and human ingenuity. Let’s examine the reasoning behind this unconventional defense strategy and explore how to apply these concepts to tame the lions in your life. Visual Confusion The primary theory behind using a stool against a lion revolves around visual […]

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  • From Pruning to Growth: What Plant Care Can Teach Us About Employee Well-being

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 15, 2025 Recently, while pruning plants that had suffered from sun and water stress, I noticed that after pruning, beautiful new growth emerged rapidly. This experience inspired me to express the importance of leaders in fostering similar rejuvenation in their teams by addressing stress and promoting a supportive and collaborative work environment. Recognizing Stress The leaves of my Hosta plants were not just yellowed; they were browning and droopy. Before this recent experience, I did not enjoy working with plants. But on this day, I spent over three hours tending to our plants and garden, and for the […]

    Read More
  • Golden Career Strategies President Stacey Bevill Earns Harrison Assessments Debriefing and Coaching Accreditation

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 2, 2022 Stacey Bevill, Owner and President of Golden Career Strategies, recently became a certified Harrison Assessment provider. Harrison Assessments’ Talent Solutions Platform empowers businesses and leaders across the globe to create engaged, fulfilled and high-performing teams by providing insights for talent acquisition, employee development, team development, leadership and succession planning, employee engagement and organizational analytics. Harrison’s award-winning, cloud-based technology provides secure, job-specific predictive analytics designed to enhance the candidate and employee experiences. Organizations save time and money by utilizing Harrison’s assessment science and technology to hire the best candidates, validate high potentials, and accelerate individual and team […]

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  • Golden Career Strategies CEO Stacey Bevill Earns Specialty Designations for Board Certified Coach (BCC) Credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE)

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 6, 2022 Stacey Bevill, BCC, PCC, MPM®, is one of fewer than 12 Board Certified Coaches in the Greenville-Spartanburg area and part of an elite group of only 66 in the entire state of South Carolina.  Stacey Bevill, Owner and CEO of Golden Career Strategies, recently earned two prestigious specialty designations for her Board Certified Coach (BCC) credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE). These specialty designations are voluntary accompaniments to the BCC credential emphasizing areas of expertise. Bevill’s specialty designations include Executive/Corporate/Business/Leadership Coach and Career Coach. The BCC credential is a mark of distinction for credential holders and a source […]

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  • Team Engagement and Collaboration in a Hybrid World

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff June 1, 2022 Unprecedented Stress Over the last couple of years, employees have experienced unprecedented stress from external sources including significant losses or changes, health issues, social division and more, all while managing their personal and professional obligations. As a result, employment expectations for both employers and their employees have shifted and will continue to change. Work View Shifts One primary shift is how employees view work. They want a position that is more closely aligned with personal values. Many want their job to have a purpose in their life and not just a way to make a living. […]

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March 2024

  • Identifying and Removing Stressors

    This summer I addressed little things in my life that either annoyed me or added stress. Once identified, it was easy to take action. Below are a few examples. I hope you will be inspired to identify and remove some of your own stressors. 1. Every morning I felt frustrated with having dirt and dog hair on the kitchen floor. Action: Bought a robot vacuum. Result: A smile each morning as I see the floors and empty the vacuum. Love it so much we now have one for the carpeted rooms and will be getting one for the upstairs. 2. […]

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  • Peace Begins with Me

    Recently I attended a Peace Conference. Early in the day we were told that “peace begins with us.” Peace begins with us. I have been contemplating those four simple words since the conference. Peace is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as “In a general sense, a state of quiet or tranquility; freedom from disturbance or agitation; applicable to society, to individuals, or to the temper of the mind.” If peace begins with our own ability to enjoy peace, what are our chances for peace beyond us? How many of us have peace in our daily lives? Today during my morning walk […]

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  • Resolve to be a Better Communicator

    A study by the Joint Commission for Transforming Healthcare revealed that up to 80 percent of serious medical errors can be attributed to miscommunication among medical staff. The good news is that we can easily learn skills to help us communicate more effectively and improve our business and personal relationships. Making effective requests of others is an integral part of good communication in the workplace and at home. But many of us haven’t learned how to deliver a concise request with clear expectations. Oftentimes, we expect others to read our minds or intuitively know how to respond to our requests. […]

    Read More
  • Being Compassionate in a Time of Crisis

      If I had to pick one word to describe what we need during this time, that word would be compassion. Compassion for self and compassion for others. Why compassion? When we are under duress or experiencing stress we are more likely to make mistakes, communicate less effectively and present with emotions and behaviors that vary from our norm. For many, the changes and the challenges that we are currently facing trigger unresolved grief or trauma. We feel rocked to our core. Trauma lives in cellular memory, not just the brain. When we experience a traumatic event such as what […]

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  • Communication and Trust During Times of Chaos

    It is virtually impossible to go through a day without communication. We communicate in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, and more. The messages can include clues such as tone, body language, facial expressions, and our perspective. During times of chaos and uncertainty, it is even more essential that we begin our conversations with care and compassion. In stressful periods, many experience fear, worry, and anxiety. And those that have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization. There is much potential in communication – the potential for productivity or for misunderstanding. We can all think […]

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January 2022

  • The Impact of Fear and 20 Ways to Minimize It

    Chronic fear impacts our physical health, memory, brain processing, and our mental health. This article will explain what happens in our brains and bodies when we experience fear and ways that we can move from fear to resilience. We feel the emotion fear when we are threatened. The perceived threat can be either physical, psychological, or emotional and can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear can help to keep us safe by motivating us to take action that will prevent us from harm. […]

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September 2019

  • Does Cultural Fit make for Group Think?

    In advising clients we often mention the cultural fit of an organization.  Do you like ping pong tables next to your desk?  Is the organization one where all-nighters are part of how the work gets done?  In looking at culture on your way in you certainly want one where your core values are in alignment.  Violating this maxim creates a stressful work environment.  I would suggest that if you do take a position violating the rule of alignment of your basic core values (the gap between your values and the values of the organization) you create a space for stress […]

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August 2019

  • Are You Agile Enough?

    What does it mean to be agile?  How many businesses do you know that espouse agility but couldn’t find it in the dictionary?  There are a lot of demands in the commercial world-Faster-Better-Cheaper.  And on top of that the other guys—whoever they may be—are already doing it, so now you’re in catch up mode.  In this WSJ article by Sue Shellenbarger she discusses the pros, cons and potential harm of corporate agility.  Enjoy!!!

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  • Overqualified or Unemployed, What Kind of Choice is That?

    Ok, you’ve got great experience, killer credentials, you score the first interview, then the second.  And then you get the call, “we appreciate your submittal and participation in this process, however we going with a candidate who is a closer match to our needs.”  “Wait” you say, “my resume looks almost exactly like your requirements, in fact a little better.” “Too much,” they say, “you’re OVERQUALIFIED.”  The kiss of death, or is it?  Organizations want hungry applicants who meet their needs but not too much experience.  Sometimes the overqualified rejection seems like a veiled age discrimination, but it can happen […]

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July 2019

  • Boss Management 201

    So ….. have a new boss?  And perhaps you’ve heard off bosses like this — demanding, unrealistically demanding, not supportive, perhaps you’ve even questioned they’re emotional stability with other members of the management team.  A little while back we had a GCS Roundtable discussion on boss management, we touched briefly on how to engage and manage bosses like this.  Bosses who aren’t team players who impressed the hiring committee with their take charge, self-confidence, change agent presentation. You can’t hide from such a leader.  In fact, you mustn’t take these tirades, or put downs personally. This is your opportunity to […]

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May 2019

  • The Challenges of Finding that First Job

    The ever changing career market throws challenges at seekers as they try to out think employers desires.  I have seen a number of graduates working hard to give employers what they want.  First a graduate degree, then intern experience and now it would seem that job experience helps to set one apart from the crowd.  How does a student and ultimately a graduate find and secure the position they desire? First, have a target.  Internships, graduate degrees and work experience will not add much to your resume if there isn’t a target in mind.  As you gather your education create […]

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March 2019

  • Making your next interview work for you

    Perhaps you’ve had this experience, you interview with a potential new employer, or for a promotion/job change within your existing employer, its a great interview from your standpoint but you don’t get the nod. It isn’t always easy to find that right combination to get to that next step and I don’t have a silver bullet to offer you to overcome resistance. But, you can make some extra preparations for that interview. Be prepared to tell a story about how you overcame adversity to meet a goal. Include as many details as appropriate, you see we remember stories, particularly real […]

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February 2019

  • Promotions can Change more than just your office.

    So you’ve been at your current position for sometime, you’ve achieved some success and you’ve established a number of relationships. The boss, noticing your effort and your success, extends a promotion. Its just what you were hoping for, more salary and the chance to impact the direction of your organization. You turn around to celebrate with your friends and … where did they go? You’d like to think that a title change would not affect your relationships, but it does. How you manage that effectively is key to avoid misunderstanding and confusion, In this article from the Wall Street Journal, […]

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January 2019

  • Another reorganization, is it time to head for the exit?

    We’ve all experienced a company reorganization. Sometimes its economically driven, sometimes it is new ownership, it always causes anxiety. It often surprised me how quickly my co-workers would want to head for the exits before the reorganization was fully rolled out, before they knew how it might affect them. There’s a great deal of emotion expended in a reorganization many times leading to irrational choices. My question often was how can moving to a new company you don’t really know be better than staying where you are and finding out your new role? But, sometimes its just reorg fatigue, too […]

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  • Is it time in your career to yield, make a u-turn, or exit?

    We all work hard to make our careers a success. This can be a detailed plan, it might be an opportunistic path as others pursue you, or it could be that as you reach each point you merely look for the next step. In many situations there comes a time of re-evaluation. Is this leading to where I thought I was headed? Can I afford to stay in this job? Do I have to check my personal values at the door each day to follow through on my assignments. Under conditions where you are challenged each day, where the space […]

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December 2018

  • The Impromptu Speech, rational or rambling?

    Some years ago the manufacturing company where I was VP was about to embark on a major change.  It was important enough that the president wanted to hold a company wide meeting first thing on Monday morning.  Over the weekend I considered how I would approach this topic and the major points.  Monday morning we settled into our cafeteria, the only room big enough, the president came in and started.  “I suppose you’re all wondering why we’re meeting this morning” … “Steve’s got something to tell you,” he said pointing at me.  Wow, talk about impromptu.  I was blessed.  I […]

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  • Career Advice in 3 Words

    Everyday we get advice from all around us.  What to do, what not to do, the best phone, car, etc.  Here is some great investment advice:  Invest in Yourself!  As The Golden Course strives to impress upon clients — reflection upon and improvement of your skills is always valuable.  The skills we focus on and hone during our coaching serve clients not only in their career search, but in community, family and in their new career.  In this Inc. article Warren Buffet speaks to the value of Investing in Yourself.  Advice can be basic, but even basic advice is important.  Cement […]

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November 2018

  • Gratitude makes for happier people, and a more successful business

    Ah, the simple things.  Gratitude.  Grateful people are happy people.  “What have I got to be grateful for?” you might ask.  Indeed, there are those days, those seasons in our life when we might start to believe that we don’t have much to be thankful for.  Perhaps our boss steals our ideas, haven’t had a review or raise in 3 years, the company let me go with no warning or negative feedback ever, my co-workers are cliquish,  and my secretary talks behind my back.   It certainly sound like we’re asking you to drink the Kool-Aid to say there is a […]

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  • Does it pay to be nice?

    So, is civility just a garnish on the plate of business?  We grew up learning how to be nice to those around us, sometimes that gets lost in the busyness of business.  I recall an incident years ago, the factory had a high pressure line break and I shouted to the supervisor to, “Go, shut it off right now!”   He stopped came back and asked if it was too much trouble for me to say, “Please.”  I was completely taken aback.  That said, I have been guilty in the past of sacrificing relationship on the altar of expediency.  I did […]

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October 2018

  • What is Leadership and Who make the best Leaders?

    For a long time businesses have looked for that over the top, larger than life personality to lead.  But is that really what benefits the organization.  Think about the leaders you’ve known in your work life, think about historical leaders and consider what traits serve best.  Oh, sure there is the strong leader who is able to push, pull, or throw the organization against a goal, but what is the steady form of leadership that draws the best out of the team.  A super star doesn’t get the job done, unless the rest of the team is engaged and plays […]

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July 2018

  • Less is more … Happiness comes in small packages

    So what is the basis of happiness?  We often hear money can’t buy happiness, but then most of our time, attention, and effort goes into making more money.  Happiness just may be aligning our efforts with our core values, the more divergent our work is from our core values the more stress and anxiety we experience.  But there is more, sometimes we need to get the stuff out of the way.  Check out this TED talk called, “Less stuff, More Happiness.”

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  • Change takes time…

    We can be in a big hurry to move through change, to gain closure, to put it all behind us.  But is this really the case?  Change, whether it is perceived as good or bad requires us to leave something behind.  When we graduate we leave behind some rather happy times as a student.  When we marry we leave the single life, and even though we prefer to be married (most days), we have to recognize that we have chosen a new life over the old. The old life is not forgotten, nor do we want to put it behind […]

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Coping with Coronavirus: the Impact and 20 Ways to Minimize Fear
Chronic fear impacts our physical health, memory, brain processing, and our mental health. This article will explain what happens in our brains and bodies when we experience fear and ways that we can move from fear to resilience.

We feel the emotion fear when we are threatened. The perceived threat can be either physical, psychological, or emotional and can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear can help to keep us safe by motivating us to take action that will prevent us from harm. Some of us enjoy being afraid, and we purposely watch scary movies or engage in high-risk adventures such as skydiving.

Hard-wired to detect and respond to danger

Our brains are hard-wired to respond to danger. Our nervous system continually takes in sensory information from our environment and from physiological responses to access risk. Most of us are familiar with fight, flight, or freeze, but there is also a response named appease. Each of these is a physiological response expressed in behavior. The term neuroception, coined by Dr. Stephen Porges, describes how our neural circuitry consistently distinguishes whether situations or people are safe, dangerous, or life-threatening. https://eric.ed.gov/?id=EJ938225

Our bodies respond to fear

Several physiological changes occur in response to fear. In a fight or flight response, our breath and heart rates increase. Our peripheral blood vessels constrict, and our central blood vessels dilate to flood vital organs with oxygen and nutrients. Blood rushes to our muscles, and blood sugar levels can spike to provide energy. Our bloodstream may also have an increase in white blood cells and calcium. Our stomach and pancreas inhibit digestion while the adrenal glands stimulate the secretion of epinephrine. Adrenalin and dopamine levels rise, and the production of tears, salivation, and hearing is reduced. Tunnel vision may occur as our pupils dilate to improve visual acuity.

A freeze response may occur when there is a perceived threat to safety, connection, or dignity. (Amanda Blake, Body=Brain www.embright.org) In a freeze response, we may dissociate, play dead, or engage in passive avoidance. Our pupils contract and heart and breathing rates slow down.

When we respond to a perceived threat to safety, connection, or dignity by appeasing, we are attempting to accommodate or submit to minimize further danger. All of these responses are normal.

How fear processed in the brain

The amygdala plays a vital role in processing emotions, including fear. Trauma responses and memories are stored in the amygdala. The amygdala is closely related to the hippocampus (memory recall) and the prefrontal cortex, which help the brain interpret the perceived threat.  (https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/what-happens-brain-feel-fear-180966992/) When the amygdala is activated, it triggers the hypothalamus, which prompts the pituitary gland. The pituitary gland connects the nervous system to the endocrine (hormonal) system. Once the adrenal gland activates, epinephrine flows to the bloodstream. The body then releases cortisol and over 1,400 other chemicals that negatively affect the body. (HeartMath® Training)

Chronic fear impacts us

In my last article, I wrote that “if we continue to experience an emotion for hours or days, it will become a mood. Over time, if we stay in that mood, it will become a temperament and eventually a personality trait.” (https://livingupstatesc.com/being-compassionate-in-a-time-of-crisis/) Additionally, when we live in constant fear, our bodies, mental health, brain function, and memory can suffer.

  1. Physical Health
    Chronic fear weakens our immune system, which makes us more susceptible to viruses and bacterial infections. It can also affect our cardiovascular health and create gastrointestinal problems such as ulcers and even irritable bowel syndrome. Living in fear for an extended time can lead to premature aging and early death.
  2. Mental Health
    Feeling constant perceived threat can lead to fatigue and serious diagnoses such as depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
  3. Brain Function
    The ability to regulate emotions, read non-verbal clues, reflect before responding, and act ethically are all processes in the brain that can be disrupted. Chronic fear leads to poor decision making, intense emotions, and inappropriate reactions.
  4. Memory
    The hippocampus (memory recall) can be damaged, which impairs the formation of long-term memories. Regulating fear becomes more difficult. (https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/impact-fear-and-anxiety)

Shifting from Chronic Fear

Thankfully, there are many easy actions we can take to minimize the effects of fear in our lives. It is impossible to live in fear and, at the same time, experience the good in the present moment. Below is a partial list of specific actions we can take to minimize the intensity. Trust your heart and pick a couple of practices that appeal to you.

  1. Be aware of your emotions for a few minutes. We can’t run from them, but when we face them, they lose their intensity.
  2. Address fear by talking about it, writing about it, or merely thinking about it with curiosity. When we pay attention, we can ask ourselves questions like, “How is this emotion serving me?” or “What action can I take to create good at this moment?” or “What can this teach me?”
  3. Move your body. Dance, Run, Walk, engage in a physical exertion that pushes you beyond your perceived limits.
  4. Turn off the news. Today’s news and is designed to keep you watching. Pay attention to how you feel when you are listening to the press. If it elicits fear, limit the amount of time you watch each day.
  5. Limit social media. Pay attention to sensations in your body as you scroll and read posts. Block or hide posts that cause you to feel fearful.
  6. Take slow, deep breaths. These breaths signal to the brain that we are safe, and the intensity of the emotion diminishes.
  7. Reach out to friends or loved ones.
  8. Write down what you are thankful for in your life. Keep the list out so that you can add to it when things come to mind. Review the list when you are in an uncomfortable place.
  9. Allow yourself to reflect on what you are thankful for and notice when the feeling of gratitude shifts you from fear.
  10. The brain does not know the difference between fake laughter and real laughter. Watch a laughter yoga video on YouTube if you need help stimulating laughter. Watch a favorite comedy. Remember and share funny stories of things that happened in your past.
  11. Reflect on times when you have felt strong, secure, and courageous.
  12. Change your body posture. Stand up and assume a powerful pose and hold it for three minutes.
  13. Be kind to yourself. Engage in favorite activities that make you feel alive. What do you do that makes you completely lose track of time?
  14. Question your thoughts. Just because you think them, doesn’t mean they are true.
  15. Reread a favorite book.
  16. Eat a healthy diet. Avoid sugar.
  17. Help others – get creative in this time of isolation.
  18. Pray for guidance and peace.
  19. Seek out a mentor or a coach.
  20. Trust your inner wisdom.

By engaging in the activities listed above, we can regulate our emotions, manage our energy, and reduce stress. Fear is external but can become internal, which becomes anxiety.

Would you like to learn more? Schedule a complimentary conversation.

April 2026

  • Taming Everyday Lions

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff April 6, 2025 Have you ever been to a circus and watched a lion tamer with a four-legged stool? While the effectiveness of using a stool against a lion is debatable and not scientifically proven, the idea that a four-legged stool can prevent a lion from attacking is an intriguing concept that combines elements of animal behavior, psychology, and human ingenuity. Let’s examine the reasoning behind this unconventional defense strategy and explore how to apply these concepts to tame the lions in your life. Visual Confusion The primary theory behind using a stool against a lion revolves around visual […]

    Read More
  • From Pruning to Growth: What Plant Care Can Teach Us About Employee Well-being

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 15, 2025 Recently, while pruning plants that had suffered from sun and water stress, I noticed that after pruning, beautiful new growth emerged rapidly. This experience inspired me to express the importance of leaders in fostering similar rejuvenation in their teams by addressing stress and promoting a supportive and collaborative work environment. Recognizing Stress The leaves of my Hosta plants were not just yellowed; they were browning and droopy. Before this recent experience, I did not enjoy working with plants. But on this day, I spent over three hours tending to our plants and garden, and for the […]

    Read More
  • Golden Career Strategies President Stacey Bevill Earns Harrison Assessments Debriefing and Coaching Accreditation

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 2, 2022 Stacey Bevill, Owner and President of Golden Career Strategies, recently became a certified Harrison Assessment provider. Harrison Assessments’ Talent Solutions Platform empowers businesses and leaders across the globe to create engaged, fulfilled and high-performing teams by providing insights for talent acquisition, employee development, team development, leadership and succession planning, employee engagement and organizational analytics. Harrison’s award-winning, cloud-based technology provides secure, job-specific predictive analytics designed to enhance the candidate and employee experiences. Organizations save time and money by utilizing Harrison’s assessment science and technology to hire the best candidates, validate high potentials, and accelerate individual and team […]

    Read More
  • Golden Career Strategies CEO Stacey Bevill Earns Specialty Designations for Board Certified Coach (BCC) Credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE)

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 6, 2022 Stacey Bevill, BCC, PCC, MPM®, is one of fewer than 12 Board Certified Coaches in the Greenville-Spartanburg area and part of an elite group of only 66 in the entire state of South Carolina.  Stacey Bevill, Owner and CEO of Golden Career Strategies, recently earned two prestigious specialty designations for her Board Certified Coach (BCC) credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE). These specialty designations are voluntary accompaniments to the BCC credential emphasizing areas of expertise. Bevill’s specialty designations include Executive/Corporate/Business/Leadership Coach and Career Coach. The BCC credential is a mark of distinction for credential holders and a source […]

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  • Team Engagement and Collaboration in a Hybrid World

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff June 1, 2022 Unprecedented Stress Over the last couple of years, employees have experienced unprecedented stress from external sources including significant losses or changes, health issues, social division and more, all while managing their personal and professional obligations. As a result, employment expectations for both employers and their employees have shifted and will continue to change. Work View Shifts One primary shift is how employees view work. They want a position that is more closely aligned with personal values. Many want their job to have a purpose in their life and not just a way to make a living. […]

    Read More

March 2024

  • Identifying and Removing Stressors

    This summer I addressed little things in my life that either annoyed me or added stress. Once identified, it was easy to take action. Below are a few examples. I hope you will be inspired to identify and remove some of your own stressors. 1. Every morning I felt frustrated with having dirt and dog hair on the kitchen floor. Action: Bought a robot vacuum. Result: A smile each morning as I see the floors and empty the vacuum. Love it so much we now have one for the carpeted rooms and will be getting one for the upstairs. 2. […]

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  • Peace Begins with Me

    Recently I attended a Peace Conference. Early in the day we were told that “peace begins with us.” Peace begins with us. I have been contemplating those four simple words since the conference. Peace is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as “In a general sense, a state of quiet or tranquility; freedom from disturbance or agitation; applicable to society, to individuals, or to the temper of the mind.” If peace begins with our own ability to enjoy peace, what are our chances for peace beyond us? How many of us have peace in our daily lives? Today during my morning walk […]

    Read More
  • Resolve to be a Better Communicator

    A study by the Joint Commission for Transforming Healthcare revealed that up to 80 percent of serious medical errors can be attributed to miscommunication among medical staff. The good news is that we can easily learn skills to help us communicate more effectively and improve our business and personal relationships. Making effective requests of others is an integral part of good communication in the workplace and at home. But many of us haven’t learned how to deliver a concise request with clear expectations. Oftentimes, we expect others to read our minds or intuitively know how to respond to our requests. […]

    Read More
  • Being Compassionate in a Time of Crisis

      If I had to pick one word to describe what we need during this time, that word would be compassion. Compassion for self and compassion for others. Why compassion? When we are under duress or experiencing stress we are more likely to make mistakes, communicate less effectively and present with emotions and behaviors that vary from our norm. For many, the changes and the challenges that we are currently facing trigger unresolved grief or trauma. We feel rocked to our core. Trauma lives in cellular memory, not just the brain. When we experience a traumatic event such as what […]

    Read More
  • Communication and Trust During Times of Chaos

    It is virtually impossible to go through a day without communication. We communicate in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, and more. The messages can include clues such as tone, body language, facial expressions, and our perspective. During times of chaos and uncertainty, it is even more essential that we begin our conversations with care and compassion. In stressful periods, many experience fear, worry, and anxiety. And those that have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization. There is much potential in communication – the potential for productivity or for misunderstanding. We can all think […]

    Read More

January 2022

  • The Impact of Fear and 20 Ways to Minimize It

    Chronic fear impacts our physical health, memory, brain processing, and our mental health. This article will explain what happens in our brains and bodies when we experience fear and ways that we can move from fear to resilience. We feel the emotion fear when we are threatened. The perceived threat can be either physical, psychological, or emotional and can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear can help to keep us safe by motivating us to take action that will prevent us from harm. […]

    Read More

September 2019

  • Does Cultural Fit make for Group Think?

    In advising clients we often mention the cultural fit of an organization.  Do you like ping pong tables next to your desk?  Is the organization one where all-nighters are part of how the work gets done?  In looking at culture on your way in you certainly want one where your core values are in alignment.  Violating this maxim creates a stressful work environment.  I would suggest that if you do take a position violating the rule of alignment of your basic core values (the gap between your values and the values of the organization) you create a space for stress […]

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August 2019

  • Are You Agile Enough?

    What does it mean to be agile?  How many businesses do you know that espouse agility but couldn’t find it in the dictionary?  There are a lot of demands in the commercial world-Faster-Better-Cheaper.  And on top of that the other guys—whoever they may be—are already doing it, so now you’re in catch up mode.  In this WSJ article by Sue Shellenbarger she discusses the pros, cons and potential harm of corporate agility.  Enjoy!!!

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  • Overqualified or Unemployed, What Kind of Choice is That?

    Ok, you’ve got great experience, killer credentials, you score the first interview, then the second.  And then you get the call, “we appreciate your submittal and participation in this process, however we going with a candidate who is a closer match to our needs.”  “Wait” you say, “my resume looks almost exactly like your requirements, in fact a little better.” “Too much,” they say, “you’re OVERQUALIFIED.”  The kiss of death, or is it?  Organizations want hungry applicants who meet their needs but not too much experience.  Sometimes the overqualified rejection seems like a veiled age discrimination, but it can happen […]

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July 2019

  • Boss Management 201

    So ….. have a new boss?  And perhaps you’ve heard off bosses like this — demanding, unrealistically demanding, not supportive, perhaps you’ve even questioned they’re emotional stability with other members of the management team.  A little while back we had a GCS Roundtable discussion on boss management, we touched briefly on how to engage and manage bosses like this.  Bosses who aren’t team players who impressed the hiring committee with their take charge, self-confidence, change agent presentation. You can’t hide from such a leader.  In fact, you mustn’t take these tirades, or put downs personally. This is your opportunity to […]

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May 2019

  • The Challenges of Finding that First Job

    The ever changing career market throws challenges at seekers as they try to out think employers desires.  I have seen a number of graduates working hard to give employers what they want.  First a graduate degree, then intern experience and now it would seem that job experience helps to set one apart from the crowd.  How does a student and ultimately a graduate find and secure the position they desire? First, have a target.  Internships, graduate degrees and work experience will not add much to your resume if there isn’t a target in mind.  As you gather your education create […]

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March 2019

  • Making your next interview work for you

    Perhaps you’ve had this experience, you interview with a potential new employer, or for a promotion/job change within your existing employer, its a great interview from your standpoint but you don’t get the nod. It isn’t always easy to find that right combination to get to that next step and I don’t have a silver bullet to offer you to overcome resistance. But, you can make some extra preparations for that interview. Be prepared to tell a story about how you overcame adversity to meet a goal. Include as many details as appropriate, you see we remember stories, particularly real […]

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February 2019

  • Promotions can Change more than just your office.

    So you’ve been at your current position for sometime, you’ve achieved some success and you’ve established a number of relationships. The boss, noticing your effort and your success, extends a promotion. Its just what you were hoping for, more salary and the chance to impact the direction of your organization. You turn around to celebrate with your friends and … where did they go? You’d like to think that a title change would not affect your relationships, but it does. How you manage that effectively is key to avoid misunderstanding and confusion, In this article from the Wall Street Journal, […]

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January 2019

  • Another reorganization, is it time to head for the exit?

    We’ve all experienced a company reorganization. Sometimes its economically driven, sometimes it is new ownership, it always causes anxiety. It often surprised me how quickly my co-workers would want to head for the exits before the reorganization was fully rolled out, before they knew how it might affect them. There’s a great deal of emotion expended in a reorganization many times leading to irrational choices. My question often was how can moving to a new company you don’t really know be better than staying where you are and finding out your new role? But, sometimes its just reorg fatigue, too […]

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  • Is it time in your career to yield, make a u-turn, or exit?

    We all work hard to make our careers a success. This can be a detailed plan, it might be an opportunistic path as others pursue you, or it could be that as you reach each point you merely look for the next step. In many situations there comes a time of re-evaluation. Is this leading to where I thought I was headed? Can I afford to stay in this job? Do I have to check my personal values at the door each day to follow through on my assignments. Under conditions where you are challenged each day, where the space […]

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December 2018

  • The Impromptu Speech, rational or rambling?

    Some years ago the manufacturing company where I was VP was about to embark on a major change.  It was important enough that the president wanted to hold a company wide meeting first thing on Monday morning.  Over the weekend I considered how I would approach this topic and the major points.  Monday morning we settled into our cafeteria, the only room big enough, the president came in and started.  “I suppose you’re all wondering why we’re meeting this morning” … “Steve’s got something to tell you,” he said pointing at me.  Wow, talk about impromptu.  I was blessed.  I […]

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  • Career Advice in 3 Words

    Everyday we get advice from all around us.  What to do, what not to do, the best phone, car, etc.  Here is some great investment advice:  Invest in Yourself!  As The Golden Course strives to impress upon clients — reflection upon and improvement of your skills is always valuable.  The skills we focus on and hone during our coaching serve clients not only in their career search, but in community, family and in their new career.  In this Inc. article Warren Buffet speaks to the value of Investing in Yourself.  Advice can be basic, but even basic advice is important.  Cement […]

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November 2018

  • Gratitude makes for happier people, and a more successful business

    Ah, the simple things.  Gratitude.  Grateful people are happy people.  “What have I got to be grateful for?” you might ask.  Indeed, there are those days, those seasons in our life when we might start to believe that we don’t have much to be thankful for.  Perhaps our boss steals our ideas, haven’t had a review or raise in 3 years, the company let me go with no warning or negative feedback ever, my co-workers are cliquish,  and my secretary talks behind my back.   It certainly sound like we’re asking you to drink the Kool-Aid to say there is a […]

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  • Does it pay to be nice?

    So, is civility just a garnish on the plate of business?  We grew up learning how to be nice to those around us, sometimes that gets lost in the busyness of business.  I recall an incident years ago, the factory had a high pressure line break and I shouted to the supervisor to, “Go, shut it off right now!”   He stopped came back and asked if it was too much trouble for me to say, “Please.”  I was completely taken aback.  That said, I have been guilty in the past of sacrificing relationship on the altar of expediency.  I did […]

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October 2018

  • What is Leadership and Who make the best Leaders?

    For a long time businesses have looked for that over the top, larger than life personality to lead.  But is that really what benefits the organization.  Think about the leaders you’ve known in your work life, think about historical leaders and consider what traits serve best.  Oh, sure there is the strong leader who is able to push, pull, or throw the organization against a goal, but what is the steady form of leadership that draws the best out of the team.  A super star doesn’t get the job done, unless the rest of the team is engaged and plays […]

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July 2018

  • Less is more … Happiness comes in small packages

    So what is the basis of happiness?  We often hear money can’t buy happiness, but then most of our time, attention, and effort goes into making more money.  Happiness just may be aligning our efforts with our core values, the more divergent our work is from our core values the more stress and anxiety we experience.  But there is more, sometimes we need to get the stuff out of the way.  Check out this TED talk called, “Less stuff, More Happiness.”

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  • Change takes time…

    We can be in a big hurry to move through change, to gain closure, to put it all behind us.  But is this really the case?  Change, whether it is perceived as good or bad requires us to leave something behind.  When we graduate we leave behind some rather happy times as a student.  When we marry we leave the single life, and even though we prefer to be married (most days), we have to recognize that we have chosen a new life over the old. The old life is not forgotten, nor do we want to put it behind […]

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