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Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 30, 2023

Fear is an emotion everyone experiences in their lifetime. A perceived threat that activates fear can be physical, psychological, or emotional. It can also be real or imagined.

We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear activates our survival instincts. It can motivate us to take action that will prevent us from harm. Some of us even enjoy being afraid, and we purposely watch scary movies or engage in high-risk adventures such as skydiving for the natural high of an adrenaline rush.

The impact of fear
If we live in constant fear, our physical health, memory, brain functioning, and mental health can suffer:

Physical Health
Chronic fear weakens our immune system, making us susceptible to viruses and bacterial infections. It can affect cardiovascular health and create gastrointestinal problems such as ulcers and irritable bowel syndrome. Living in fear for extended periods can lead to premature aging and early death.

Mental Health
Feeling constant perceived threats can lead to reduced productivity, fatigue and diagnoses such as depression, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

Brain Function
The ability to regulate emotions, read non-verbal clues, reflect before responding and act ethically are all brain functions that can be disrupted. Since decision-making goes through the emotional center of our brain, chronic fear leads to poor decisions and inappropriate reactions.

Memory
According to the National Institute for Health[i], “Fear memory formation may induce changes in neurons within specific brain regions that affect the formation and extinction of future different memories.”  This can make regulating fear more difficult.

Ways to minimize chronic fear
Thankfully, we can take many easy actions as often as necessary to minimize the effects of fear in our lives. Below is a partial list of specific actions to minimize the intensity of fear. Pick a couple of practices that appeal to you and are easy to repeat when needed.

  1. Be aware of your emotions for a few minutes. We can’t run from them, but when we face them, they lose their intensity.
  2. Address fear by talking about it, writing about it or merely thinking about it with curiosity. When we pay attention, we can ask ourselves questions like, “How is this emotion serving me?” or “What can this teach me?”
  3. Move your body. Dance, run, or walk to engage in a physical exertion that pushes you beyond your perceived limits.
  4. Take slow, deep breaths. These breaths signal to the brain that you are safe and diminish the intensity of the emotion.
  5. Turn off the news. Today’s news is designed to keep you watching. How do you feel when engaged in news media? If it elicits fear, limit the amount of time you watch or listen each day.
  6. Pay attention to any sensations in your body as you scroll and read posts on social media. Block or hide posts that cause you to feel fearful and schedule periodic breaks from your apps.
  7. Make time to interact with friends or loved ones.
  8. Create a gratitude list and write down what you are thankful for in your life. Keep the list handy so you can add to it.
  9. Simply reflect on what you are thankful for and notice the feeling of fear shift to gratitude.
  10. The brain does not know the difference between fake laughter and real laughter. Watch a laughter yoga video on YouTube if you need help stimulating laughter. You can also watch a favorite comedy or share funny stories.
  11. Reflect on times when you have felt strong, secure and courageous.
  12. Change your body posture or engage in physical movement by standing up and assuming a powerful pose for three minutes or taking a walk.
  13. Be kind to yourself. Engage in favorite activities that make you feel alive. What do you do that makes you completely lose track of time?
  14. Question your thoughts. Just because you think them doesn’t mean they are true.
  15. Reread a favorite book or watch a favorite comedy.
  16. Eat a healthy diet. Avoid sugar, which can weaken your immune system.
  17. Help others for increased feelings of well-being
  18. Meditate or pray.
  19. Imagine the worst. The fear will lessen the more you confront it.
  20. Work with a professional coach to help build physical and mental resiliency.

By engaging in the activities listed above, you can regulate your emotions, manage your energy and reduce stress.

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[i] Fear memory formation can affect a different memory: fear conditioning affects the extinction, but not retrieval, of conditioned taste aversion (CTA) memory

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4179742/#:~:text=Fear%20memory%20formation%20may%20induce,extinction%20of%20future%20different%20memories

April 2026

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  • Golden Career Strategies CEO Stacey Bevill Earns Specialty Designations for Board Certified Coach (BCC) Credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE)

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March 2024

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  • Peace Begins with Me

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  • Resolve to be a Better Communicator

    A study by the Joint Commission for Transforming Healthcare revealed that up to 80 percent of serious medical errors can be attributed to miscommunication among medical staff. The good news is that we can easily learn skills to help us communicate more effectively and improve our business and personal relationships. Making effective requests of others is an integral part of good communication in the workplace and at home. But many of us haven’t learned how to deliver a concise request with clear expectations. Oftentimes, we expect others to read our minds or intuitively know how to respond to our requests. […]

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  • Being Compassionate in a Time of Crisis

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  • Communication and Trust During Times of Chaos

    It is virtually impossible to go through a day without communication. We communicate in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, and more. The messages can include clues such as tone, body language, facial expressions, and our perspective. During times of chaos and uncertainty, it is even more essential that we begin our conversations with care and compassion. In stressful periods, many experience fear, worry, and anxiety. And those that have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization. There is much potential in communication – the potential for productivity or for misunderstanding. We can all think […]

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January 2022

  • The Impact of Fear and 20 Ways to Minimize It

    Chronic fear impacts our physical health, memory, brain processing, and our mental health. This article will explain what happens in our brains and bodies when we experience fear and ways that we can move from fear to resilience. We feel the emotion fear when we are threatened. The perceived threat can be either physical, psychological, or emotional and can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear can help to keep us safe by motivating us to take action that will prevent us from harm. […]

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September 2019

  • Does Cultural Fit make for Group Think?

    In advising clients we often mention the cultural fit of an organization.  Do you like ping pong tables next to your desk?  Is the organization one where all-nighters are part of how the work gets done?  In looking at culture on your way in you certainly want one where your core values are in alignment.  Violating this maxim creates a stressful work environment.  I would suggest that if you do take a position violating the rule of alignment of your basic core values (the gap between your values and the values of the organization) you create a space for stress […]

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August 2019

  • Are You Agile Enough?

    What does it mean to be agile?  How many businesses do you know that espouse agility but couldn’t find it in the dictionary?  There are a lot of demands in the commercial world-Faster-Better-Cheaper.  And on top of that the other guys—whoever they may be—are already doing it, so now you’re in catch up mode.  In this WSJ article by Sue Shellenbarger she discusses the pros, cons and potential harm of corporate agility.  Enjoy!!!

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  • Overqualified or Unemployed, What Kind of Choice is That?

    Ok, you’ve got great experience, killer credentials, you score the first interview, then the second.  And then you get the call, “we appreciate your submittal and participation in this process, however we going with a candidate who is a closer match to our needs.”  “Wait” you say, “my resume looks almost exactly like your requirements, in fact a little better.” “Too much,” they say, “you’re OVERQUALIFIED.”  The kiss of death, or is it?  Organizations want hungry applicants who meet their needs but not too much experience.  Sometimes the overqualified rejection seems like a veiled age discrimination, but it can happen […]

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July 2019

  • Boss Management 201

    So ….. have a new boss?  And perhaps you’ve heard off bosses like this — demanding, unrealistically demanding, not supportive, perhaps you’ve even questioned they’re emotional stability with other members of the management team.  A little while back we had a GCS Roundtable discussion on boss management, we touched briefly on how to engage and manage bosses like this.  Bosses who aren’t team players who impressed the hiring committee with their take charge, self-confidence, change agent presentation. You can’t hide from such a leader.  In fact, you mustn’t take these tirades, or put downs personally. This is your opportunity to […]

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May 2019

  • The Challenges of Finding that First Job

    The ever changing career market throws challenges at seekers as they try to out think employers desires.  I have seen a number of graduates working hard to give employers what they want.  First a graduate degree, then intern experience and now it would seem that job experience helps to set one apart from the crowd.  How does a student and ultimately a graduate find and secure the position they desire? First, have a target.  Internships, graduate degrees and work experience will not add much to your resume if there isn’t a target in mind.  As you gather your education create […]

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March 2019

  • Making your next interview work for you

    Perhaps you’ve had this experience, you interview with a potential new employer, or for a promotion/job change within your existing employer, its a great interview from your standpoint but you don’t get the nod. It isn’t always easy to find that right combination to get to that next step and I don’t have a silver bullet to offer you to overcome resistance. But, you can make some extra preparations for that interview. Be prepared to tell a story about how you overcame adversity to meet a goal. Include as many details as appropriate, you see we remember stories, particularly real […]

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February 2019

  • Promotions can Change more than just your office.

    So you’ve been at your current position for sometime, you’ve achieved some success and you’ve established a number of relationships. The boss, noticing your effort and your success, extends a promotion. Its just what you were hoping for, more salary and the chance to impact the direction of your organization. You turn around to celebrate with your friends and … where did they go? You’d like to think that a title change would not affect your relationships, but it does. How you manage that effectively is key to avoid misunderstanding and confusion, In this article from the Wall Street Journal, […]

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January 2019

  • Another reorganization, is it time to head for the exit?

    We’ve all experienced a company reorganization. Sometimes its economically driven, sometimes it is new ownership, it always causes anxiety. It often surprised me how quickly my co-workers would want to head for the exits before the reorganization was fully rolled out, before they knew how it might affect them. There’s a great deal of emotion expended in a reorganization many times leading to irrational choices. My question often was how can moving to a new company you don’t really know be better than staying where you are and finding out your new role? But, sometimes its just reorg fatigue, too […]

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  • Is it time in your career to yield, make a u-turn, or exit?

    We all work hard to make our careers a success. This can be a detailed plan, it might be an opportunistic path as others pursue you, or it could be that as you reach each point you merely look for the next step. In many situations there comes a time of re-evaluation. Is this leading to where I thought I was headed? Can I afford to stay in this job? Do I have to check my personal values at the door each day to follow through on my assignments. Under conditions where you are challenged each day, where the space […]

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December 2018

  • The Impromptu Speech, rational or rambling?

    Some years ago the manufacturing company where I was VP was about to embark on a major change.  It was important enough that the president wanted to hold a company wide meeting first thing on Monday morning.  Over the weekend I considered how I would approach this topic and the major points.  Monday morning we settled into our cafeteria, the only room big enough, the president came in and started.  “I suppose you’re all wondering why we’re meeting this morning” … “Steve’s got something to tell you,” he said pointing at me.  Wow, talk about impromptu.  I was blessed.  I […]

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  • Career Advice in 3 Words

    Everyday we get advice from all around us.  What to do, what not to do, the best phone, car, etc.  Here is some great investment advice:  Invest in Yourself!  As The Golden Course strives to impress upon clients — reflection upon and improvement of your skills is always valuable.  The skills we focus on and hone during our coaching serve clients not only in their career search, but in community, family and in their new career.  In this Inc. article Warren Buffet speaks to the value of Investing in Yourself.  Advice can be basic, but even basic advice is important.  Cement […]

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November 2018

  • Gratitude makes for happier people, and a more successful business

    Ah, the simple things.  Gratitude.  Grateful people are happy people.  “What have I got to be grateful for?” you might ask.  Indeed, there are those days, those seasons in our life when we might start to believe that we don’t have much to be thankful for.  Perhaps our boss steals our ideas, haven’t had a review or raise in 3 years, the company let me go with no warning or negative feedback ever, my co-workers are cliquish,  and my secretary talks behind my back.   It certainly sound like we’re asking you to drink the Kool-Aid to say there is a […]

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  • Does it pay to be nice?

    So, is civility just a garnish on the plate of business?  We grew up learning how to be nice to those around us, sometimes that gets lost in the busyness of business.  I recall an incident years ago, the factory had a high pressure line break and I shouted to the supervisor to, “Go, shut it off right now!”   He stopped came back and asked if it was too much trouble for me to say, “Please.”  I was completely taken aback.  That said, I have been guilty in the past of sacrificing relationship on the altar of expediency.  I did […]

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October 2018

  • What is Leadership and Who make the best Leaders?

    For a long time businesses have looked for that over the top, larger than life personality to lead.  But is that really what benefits the organization.  Think about the leaders you’ve known in your work life, think about historical leaders and consider what traits serve best.  Oh, sure there is the strong leader who is able to push, pull, or throw the organization against a goal, but what is the steady form of leadership that draws the best out of the team.  A super star doesn’t get the job done, unless the rest of the team is engaged and plays […]

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July 2018

  • Less is more … Happiness comes in small packages

    So what is the basis of happiness?  We often hear money can’t buy happiness, but then most of our time, attention, and effort goes into making more money.  Happiness just may be aligning our efforts with our core values, the more divergent our work is from our core values the more stress and anxiety we experience.  But there is more, sometimes we need to get the stuff out of the way.  Check out this TED talk called, “Less stuff, More Happiness.”

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  • Change takes time…

    We can be in a big hurry to move through change, to gain closure, to put it all behind us.  But is this really the case?  Change, whether it is perceived as good or bad requires us to leave something behind.  When we graduate we leave behind some rather happy times as a student.  When we marry we leave the single life, and even though we prefer to be married (most days), we have to recognize that we have chosen a new life over the old. The old life is not forgotten, nor do we want to put it behind […]

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Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 8, 2024

My sister used to tell me, “Use your powers for good.” Growing up with Wonder Woman as one of my heroes, this was easy to imagine. As I matured, it was harder at times to remember that we are all “fearfully and wonderfully made…” and capable of much more than we realize. Learning to manage emotional and mental well-being is crucial for success, enjoyment of life and physical health. In today’s fast-paced world, knowing how to obtain a state of coherence and resilience quickly helps us and impacts those with whom we interact. I love that, like the ability to learn emotional intelligence, we can also learn to become more coherent and grow our capacity for resilience.

Defining Coherence

Coherence, a state where our hearts, minds, and emotions are aligned, is critical in relieving stress and improving overall well-being. Inflammation in the body caused by stress leads to diseases that account for as much as 90% of doctor visits. Achieving coherence leads to improved decision-making, as all decisions go through the emotional center of our brains, and emotional regulation, Multiple techniques, such as deep breathing, time in nature, and feeling gratitude, can help us achieve coherence. Many of these techniques can be done in the moment with just a few minutes of focus, making them easy to incorporate into our daily lives Being coherent leads to higher productivity, increased safety, fewer errors, and better decisions.

Defining Resiliency

Resiliency refers to our ability to bounce back from adversity and stress. It involves adapting to challenges and maintaining a sense of purpose. Studies show that resilient individuals are more likely to thrive in difficult situations, demonstrating the importance of cultivating this trait. Scientifically backed methods for developing resilience include mindfulness meditation, adopting a growth mindset, fostering strong social connections, regular physical exercise, and reframing negative experiences. These strategies are supported by extensive research in psychology and personal development.  The more resilient and coherent we become, the more we can help others also shift.

Supportive Research

A HeartMath study titled “Co-participant Pair Experiment” explored the dynamics of coherence between paired participants, focusing on how individual coherence practices could influence a partner’s physiological and emotional states. Key findings revealed that when one participant achieved a state of coherence using HeartMath techniques, their partner, even without prior training, often experienced improved heart rate variability and emotional stability. This phenomenon underscores the potential for emotional and physiological states to be shared and enhanced within interpersonal relationships.

Defining Energy Management System

HeartMath introduces the idea of viewing ourselves as energy management systems. This concept emphasizes the importance of managing our energy to maintain well-being. When we understand the significant role of energy, we can make conscious choices to sustain and renew ourselves and finish our days with enough energy to engage in activities we enjoy instead of being exhausted.

Emotions and Energy

Emotions play a significant role in our energy levels. Renewing emotions like joy and gratitude can increase our energy while depleting emotions such as anger, fear, and anxiety can deplete it. Practicing gratitude daily can boost energy levels, enhancing overall life satisfaction. Conversely, fear significantly impacts brain function, particularly the hippocampus, which is involved in memory and learning. Chronic fear can impair hippocampal function, leading to difficulty processing information and with emotional regulation.

Practical Applications

These findings are significant for individuals, leaders, and teams, suggesting that fostering personal coherence can positively impact group dynamics and performance. Leaders can leverage these insights to cultivate emotionally resilient teams, enhancing collaboration and reducing stress. For individuals, practicing coherence can improve personal well-being and interpersonal interactions. Athletes often use coherence techniques to enhance performance and focus under pressure. The study above aligns with existing research on emotional contagion and group coherence, highlighting the transformative potential of HeartMath practices in various settings. Resiliency and coherence are vital for emotional and mental health. They enable individuals to handle stress more effectively and maintain a positive outlook.

Conclusion

By exploring concepts such as HeartMath’s energy management system, resiliency and coherence, or Positive Intelligence’s mental fitness, we gain valuable insights into managing our mental and emotional well-being. Embracing these ideas can lead to a more balanced, fulfilling life.

Are you or your team ready to become more coherent and resilient? Let’s connect. Schedule your complimentary consultation today at http://www.goldencareerstrategies.com/ or call Stacey at 864-527-0425. Visit us at booth 217 on November 7th and 8th at the 2024 South Carolina Manufacturing Conference and Expo in Greenville, SC.


Stacey BevillAbout Stacey Bevill – SC Biz News 2024 included Bevill as an honoree on their 2024 Manufacturing Power List. She serves on the board of the South Carolina Roundtable, part of the Council of Supply Chain Management Professionals (CSCMP), and the Board of Trustees for the University Center of Greenville. She is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) credentialed by the International Coach Federation (ICF) and a Board-Certified Coach (BCC). Additional credentials include Positive Intelligence,

Conversational Intelligence Enhanced Practitioner, Inspired Leadership, and Coaching for Managers. Stacey is a HeartMath® Certified Coach, Trainer, and Stress & Well-Being Assessment Provider. She is a Myers-Briggs MBTI®, a Leadership Challenge LPI 360® Certified Practitioner, a Zen Leadership Practitioner, and a Flow Energy Balance Indicator (FEBI®) Assessment Certified Coach (Leadership Patterns). She is also a certified Harrison Assessment provider for hiring and promotions, indicating performance and enjoyment based on 175 personality traits.

She is trained in Lean Six Sigma Black Belt and has received “value-added” training for her manufacturing clients: Certified Agile Change Management and Local Change Agent (credentialed by APMG), and is a Certified Master Project Manager.® She is a graduate of Leadership South Carolina, Leadership Spartanburg, and Spartanburg County Foundation’s Grass Roots Leadership Development Institute (GLDI), and one of four volunteer coaches in South Carolina for Veterans through Stand Beside Them. Bevill was awarded the Rotary International District Service Above Self award.

About Golden Career Strategies (GCS) – GCS helps organizations maximize their employees’ effectiveness and potential by providing innovative organizational and leadership development, assessments, team and individual coaching, custom training and workshops, onboarding, and outplacement services. For individuals, GCS offers many tailored services, including The Golden Career Course™, Assessments, Coaching / Consulting, and more. GCS clients include executives in transition, recent college graduates, those seeking encore careers, entrepreneurs, and others. Complimentary consultations can be scheduled online at www.goldencareerstrategies.com. Everyone is welcome to attend the popular Golden Career Strategies Monthly Monday Morning Roundtable for professional career development via Zoom from 9:00 a.m. to 10:00 a.m. Please register online at https://goldencareerstrategies.com/roundtables to learn more and register for our monthly Upskilling and Networking event. https://goldencareerstrategies.com/

 

 

April 2026

  • Golden Career Strategies Announces Special Veterans Day Offer

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff November 9, 2022 In honor of Veterans Day, Golden Career Strategies (GCS) offers a complimentary Stress and Well-Being Assessment to veterans who call or register online. This special offer ($100 value) includes a 30-minute review and tips for reducing stress, becoming more resilient and building one’s capacity for resilience. “We truly value those who have served our country and want to serve them in return, even if in a small way,” said GCS CEO Stacey Bevill, who personally supports veterans as a volunteer coach for Stand Beside Them, a national 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to helping veterans transition out of the […]

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  • Safe Harbor Provides HeartMath® Training for Staff to Build Resiliency

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff November 1, 2022 South Carolina domestic violence ranking improves from #6 in the nation to #23   Since 1987, October has been designated as Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Over the past 30+ years progress has been made to support domestic violence victims and survivors, to hold abusers accountable, and to create and update legislation to further those goals. Safe Harbor, a private non-profit serving four counties in the Upstate, offers ongoing support and training to its staff in keeping with its mission to provide a continuum of services to victims of domestic violence and their children, and to eliminate […]

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  • Press Release: Golden Career Strategies Adds Change Management to Portfolio of Services

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff July 21, 2021 Greenville, SC, July 13, 2021 — Golden Career Strategies (GCS) is pleased to announce the company has added another valuable offering to its portfolio of services: Change Management, which focuses on helping organizations be successful in implementing special projects or major strategic initiatives. This comes on the heels of GCS President Stacey Bevill earning the prestigious designation of APMG International™ Certified Local Change Agent (CLCA). As a CLCA, Bevill can serve organizations as a Local Change Agent to execute change success for her clients and help train others to become APMG International™ Change Management professionals. “By engaging professional assistance to […]

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  • Onboarding for Mergers and Acquisitions

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff July 19, 2021 We often think of onboarding for new hires, but effective onboarding is also imperative for successful transition during mergers and acquisitions. Even before the final contracts are signed, it is beneficial to have an onboarding plan. Sadly, more often than not, little preparation has been made for onboarding staff members who may feel uneasy even in the most exciting of times. To successfully onboard an acquired team, great care must be taken to move these team members into their new corporate “homes” quickly and carefully. This calls for a particular set of change management activities that […]

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  • Workforce Resilience

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 16, 2021 One of the common attributes’ employees list for an ideal job is a stress-free work environment. Even if there was such a thing as a stress-free job, the reality is we would still carry our stress from home and other sources. To make matters worse, a study from the Max Planck Institute for Human Cognitive and Brain Sciences, Leipzig indicates that stress is contagious. “Observing another person in a stressful situation can be enough to make our own bodies release the stress hormone cortisol.” [1] Most of us are familiar with cortisol, but few know that over a thousand […]

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  • Talent Innovation

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff September 29, 2021 Many years ago, an executive director I worked for told me, “I don’t pay you to think.” After a moment of shock, I replied, “I guess that explains why you pay me so little.” During my time with that organization, I spearheaded many projects, some of which are still in existence over 20 years later. Thankfully my willingness to create and improve systems to serve our clients better wasn’t squashed. It easily could have been, as this was my first “real” job after college and I was working with team members with higher education levels. This […]

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  • Energy in Leadership

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 2, 2022 Energy Measurement We all feel each other’s energy, whether we’re aware of it or not. Each time our heart beats, a magnetic field travels out of our bodies and extends in all directions. This field can be measured with magnetometers. Gerhard Baule and Richard McFee first demonstrated the first biomagnetic signal in 1863 with a magnetocardiogram (MCG) that used magnetic induction coils to detect fields generated by the human heart. Research indicates that we feel each other’s energy as far as three feet away from the body.[1] Many scientists believe we can feel each other’s energy further, […]

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  • Improving Communication by Building Trust

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 13, 2022 Communication is part of everyday life, whether in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, or other avenues. The messages often include tone, body language, facial expressions, and perspective clues. Communication has the potential for understanding and productivity or misunderstanding and disengagement. Including care and compassion in our conversations during stressful times becomes even more critical. Those who have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization and others may experience anxiety, worry, fear, and other depleting emotions. Can you think of a time when communication activated feelings of inspiration and connection? What […]

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  • 20 Ways to Minimize Fear

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 30, 2023 Fear is an emotion everyone experiences in their lifetime. A perceived threat that activates fear can be physical, psychological, or emotional. It can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear activates our survival instincts. It can motivate us to take action that will prevent us from harm. Some of us even enjoy being afraid, and we purposely watch scary movies or engage in high-risk adventures such as skydiving for the natural high of an adrenaline rush. The impact of fear […]

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  • Identifying Concerns in the Workplace and Beyond

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff January 15, 2024 About five years ago, I was asked the following question: What issue for today’s working women is of most concern to you? When I started writing my response, I noticed that I had more concerns than I realized and that they were the concerns of many –not just women. Taking the time to identify these concerns motivates me to do what I can to lessen them. Acknowledge Concerns My concern is multifaceted. We live with the belief that self-sacrifice is more honorable than self-care. We have forgotten to say “No.” to yet another request. We forget to ask, […]

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  • Are You Ready for Better?

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff April 25, 2024 Ready for Better Do you want to become a better leader, embrace personal development, or improve your team’s engagement and innovation? Perhaps you have an idea for a book or a passion for learning a new subject or language. After founding and working in a marketing company for 17 years, I knew it was time for a change. This is my journey so far, followed by several tips to support your journey. I hope it inspires you. “What one man can do, another can do.” (The Edge)[1] Opportunities Abound For over a decade, I had the […]

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  • Sustainable Mental Well-being with Coherence and Resiliency

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 8, 2024 My sister used to tell me, “Use your powers for good.” Growing up with Wonder Woman as one of my heroes, this was easy to imagine. As I matured, it was harder at times to remember that we are all “fearfully and wonderfully made…” and capable of much more than we realize. Learning to manage emotional and mental well-being is crucial for success, enjoyment of life and physical health. In today’s fast-paced world, knowing how to obtain a state of coherence and resilience quickly helps us and impacts those with whom we interact. I love that, […]

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  • Taking Flight with DISC: Revolutionizing Team Dynamics in Manufacturing

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff March 4, 2025 Effective teamwork and communication are crucial in today’s fast-paced, high-stress work environments. As to-do lists grow and deadlines loom, organizations require innovative tools to enhance self-awareness, team performance, engagement and effective leadership. Introducing “Taking Flight with DISC” – an enhanced version of the classic DISC assessment that’s taking team building to new heights. The Evolution of DISC The traditional DISC assessment, a long-standing tool in organizational development, has been a go-to resource for understanding personality styles and improving teams. With over a million assessments sold annually, its effectiveness is well-established. However, a common challenge persists: How […]

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  • Taming Everyday Lions

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff April 6, 2025 Have you ever been to a circus and watched a lion tamer with a four-legged stool? While the effectiveness of using a stool against a lion is debatable and not scientifically proven, the idea that a four-legged stool can prevent a lion from attacking is an intriguing concept that combines elements of animal behavior, psychology, and human ingenuity. Let’s examine the reasoning behind this unconventional defense strategy and explore how to apply these concepts to tame the lions in your life. Visual Confusion The primary theory behind using a stool against a lion revolves around visual […]

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  • From Pruning to Growth: What Plant Care Can Teach Us About Employee Well-being

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 15, 2025 Recently, while pruning plants that had suffered from sun and water stress, I noticed that after pruning, beautiful new growth emerged rapidly. This experience inspired me to express the importance of leaders in fostering similar rejuvenation in their teams by addressing stress and promoting a supportive and collaborative work environment. Recognizing Stress The leaves of my Hosta plants were not just yellowed; they were browning and droopy. Before this recent experience, I did not enjoy working with plants. But on this day, I spent over three hours tending to our plants and garden, and for the […]

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  • Golden Career Strategies President Stacey Bevill Earns Harrison Assessments Debriefing and Coaching Accreditation

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 2, 2022 Stacey Bevill, Owner and President of Golden Career Strategies, recently became a certified Harrison Assessment provider. Harrison Assessments’ Talent Solutions Platform empowers businesses and leaders across the globe to create engaged, fulfilled and high-performing teams by providing insights for talent acquisition, employee development, team development, leadership and succession planning, employee engagement and organizational analytics. Harrison’s award-winning, cloud-based technology provides secure, job-specific predictive analytics designed to enhance the candidate and employee experiences. Organizations save time and money by utilizing Harrison’s assessment science and technology to hire the best candidates, validate high potentials, and accelerate individual and team […]

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  • Golden Career Strategies CEO Stacey Bevill Earns Specialty Designations for Board Certified Coach (BCC) Credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE)

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 6, 2022 Stacey Bevill, BCC, PCC, MPM®, is one of fewer than 12 Board Certified Coaches in the Greenville-Spartanburg area and part of an elite group of only 66 in the entire state of South Carolina.  Stacey Bevill, Owner and CEO of Golden Career Strategies, recently earned two prestigious specialty designations for her Board Certified Coach (BCC) credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE). These specialty designations are voluntary accompaniments to the BCC credential emphasizing areas of expertise. Bevill’s specialty designations include Executive/Corporate/Business/Leadership Coach and Career Coach. The BCC credential is a mark of distinction for credential holders and a source […]

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  • Team Engagement and Collaboration in a Hybrid World

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff June 1, 2022 Unprecedented Stress Over the last couple of years, employees have experienced unprecedented stress from external sources including significant losses or changes, health issues, social division and more, all while managing their personal and professional obligations. As a result, employment expectations for both employers and their employees have shifted and will continue to change. Work View Shifts One primary shift is how employees view work. They want a position that is more closely aligned with personal values. Many want their job to have a purpose in their life and not just a way to make a living. […]

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March 2024

  • Identifying and Removing Stressors

    This summer I addressed little things in my life that either annoyed me or added stress. Once identified, it was easy to take action. Below are a few examples. I hope you will be inspired to identify and remove some of your own stressors. 1. Every morning I felt frustrated with having dirt and dog hair on the kitchen floor. Action: Bought a robot vacuum. Result: A smile each morning as I see the floors and empty the vacuum. Love it so much we now have one for the carpeted rooms and will be getting one for the upstairs. 2. […]

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  • Peace Begins with Me

    Recently I attended a Peace Conference. Early in the day we were told that “peace begins with us.” Peace begins with us. I have been contemplating those four simple words since the conference. Peace is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as “In a general sense, a state of quiet or tranquility; freedom from disturbance or agitation; applicable to society, to individuals, or to the temper of the mind.” If peace begins with our own ability to enjoy peace, what are our chances for peace beyond us? How many of us have peace in our daily lives? Today during my morning walk […]

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  • Resolve to be a Better Communicator

    A study by the Joint Commission for Transforming Healthcare revealed that up to 80 percent of serious medical errors can be attributed to miscommunication among medical staff. The good news is that we can easily learn skills to help us communicate more effectively and improve our business and personal relationships. Making effective requests of others is an integral part of good communication in the workplace and at home. But many of us haven’t learned how to deliver a concise request with clear expectations. Oftentimes, we expect others to read our minds or intuitively know how to respond to our requests. […]

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  • Being Compassionate in a Time of Crisis

      If I had to pick one word to describe what we need during this time, that word would be compassion. Compassion for self and compassion for others. Why compassion? When we are under duress or experiencing stress we are more likely to make mistakes, communicate less effectively and present with emotions and behaviors that vary from our norm. For many, the changes and the challenges that we are currently facing trigger unresolved grief or trauma. We feel rocked to our core. Trauma lives in cellular memory, not just the brain. When we experience a traumatic event such as what […]

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  • Communication and Trust During Times of Chaos

    It is virtually impossible to go through a day without communication. We communicate in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, and more. The messages can include clues such as tone, body language, facial expressions, and our perspective. During times of chaos and uncertainty, it is even more essential that we begin our conversations with care and compassion. In stressful periods, many experience fear, worry, and anxiety. And those that have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization. There is much potential in communication – the potential for productivity or for misunderstanding. We can all think […]

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January 2022

  • The Impact of Fear and 20 Ways to Minimize It

    Chronic fear impacts our physical health, memory, brain processing, and our mental health. This article will explain what happens in our brains and bodies when we experience fear and ways that we can move from fear to resilience. We feel the emotion fear when we are threatened. The perceived threat can be either physical, psychological, or emotional and can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear can help to keep us safe by motivating us to take action that will prevent us from harm. […]

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September 2019

  • Does Cultural Fit make for Group Think?

    In advising clients we often mention the cultural fit of an organization.  Do you like ping pong tables next to your desk?  Is the organization one where all-nighters are part of how the work gets done?  In looking at culture on your way in you certainly want one where your core values are in alignment.  Violating this maxim creates a stressful work environment.  I would suggest that if you do take a position violating the rule of alignment of your basic core values (the gap between your values and the values of the organization) you create a space for stress […]

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August 2019

  • Are You Agile Enough?

    What does it mean to be agile?  How many businesses do you know that espouse agility but couldn’t find it in the dictionary?  There are a lot of demands in the commercial world-Faster-Better-Cheaper.  And on top of that the other guys—whoever they may be—are already doing it, so now you’re in catch up mode.  In this WSJ article by Sue Shellenbarger she discusses the pros, cons and potential harm of corporate agility.  Enjoy!!!

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  • Overqualified or Unemployed, What Kind of Choice is That?

    Ok, you’ve got great experience, killer credentials, you score the first interview, then the second.  And then you get the call, “we appreciate your submittal and participation in this process, however we going with a candidate who is a closer match to our needs.”  “Wait” you say, “my resume looks almost exactly like your requirements, in fact a little better.” “Too much,” they say, “you’re OVERQUALIFIED.”  The kiss of death, or is it?  Organizations want hungry applicants who meet their needs but not too much experience.  Sometimes the overqualified rejection seems like a veiled age discrimination, but it can happen […]

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July 2019

  • Boss Management 201

    So ….. have a new boss?  And perhaps you’ve heard off bosses like this — demanding, unrealistically demanding, not supportive, perhaps you’ve even questioned they’re emotional stability with other members of the management team.  A little while back we had a GCS Roundtable discussion on boss management, we touched briefly on how to engage and manage bosses like this.  Bosses who aren’t team players who impressed the hiring committee with their take charge, self-confidence, change agent presentation. You can’t hide from such a leader.  In fact, you mustn’t take these tirades, or put downs personally. This is your opportunity to […]

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May 2019

  • The Challenges of Finding that First Job

    The ever changing career market throws challenges at seekers as they try to out think employers desires.  I have seen a number of graduates working hard to give employers what they want.  First a graduate degree, then intern experience and now it would seem that job experience helps to set one apart from the crowd.  How does a student and ultimately a graduate find and secure the position they desire? First, have a target.  Internships, graduate degrees and work experience will not add much to your resume if there isn’t a target in mind.  As you gather your education create […]

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March 2019

  • Making your next interview work for you

    Perhaps you’ve had this experience, you interview with a potential new employer, or for a promotion/job change within your existing employer, its a great interview from your standpoint but you don’t get the nod. It isn’t always easy to find that right combination to get to that next step and I don’t have a silver bullet to offer you to overcome resistance. But, you can make some extra preparations for that interview. Be prepared to tell a story about how you overcame adversity to meet a goal. Include as many details as appropriate, you see we remember stories, particularly real […]

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February 2019

  • Promotions can Change more than just your office.

    So you’ve been at your current position for sometime, you’ve achieved some success and you’ve established a number of relationships. The boss, noticing your effort and your success, extends a promotion. Its just what you were hoping for, more salary and the chance to impact the direction of your organization. You turn around to celebrate with your friends and … where did they go? You’d like to think that a title change would not affect your relationships, but it does. How you manage that effectively is key to avoid misunderstanding and confusion, In this article from the Wall Street Journal, […]

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January 2019

  • Another reorganization, is it time to head for the exit?

    We’ve all experienced a company reorganization. Sometimes its economically driven, sometimes it is new ownership, it always causes anxiety. It often surprised me how quickly my co-workers would want to head for the exits before the reorganization was fully rolled out, before they knew how it might affect them. There’s a great deal of emotion expended in a reorganization many times leading to irrational choices. My question often was how can moving to a new company you don’t really know be better than staying where you are and finding out your new role? But, sometimes its just reorg fatigue, too […]

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  • Is it time in your career to yield, make a u-turn, or exit?

    We all work hard to make our careers a success. This can be a detailed plan, it might be an opportunistic path as others pursue you, or it could be that as you reach each point you merely look for the next step. In many situations there comes a time of re-evaluation. Is this leading to where I thought I was headed? Can I afford to stay in this job? Do I have to check my personal values at the door each day to follow through on my assignments. Under conditions where you are challenged each day, where the space […]

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December 2018

  • The Impromptu Speech, rational or rambling?

    Some years ago the manufacturing company where I was VP was about to embark on a major change.  It was important enough that the president wanted to hold a company wide meeting first thing on Monday morning.  Over the weekend I considered how I would approach this topic and the major points.  Monday morning we settled into our cafeteria, the only room big enough, the president came in and started.  “I suppose you’re all wondering why we’re meeting this morning” … “Steve’s got something to tell you,” he said pointing at me.  Wow, talk about impromptu.  I was blessed.  I […]

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  • Career Advice in 3 Words

    Everyday we get advice from all around us.  What to do, what not to do, the best phone, car, etc.  Here is some great investment advice:  Invest in Yourself!  As The Golden Course strives to impress upon clients — reflection upon and improvement of your skills is always valuable.  The skills we focus on and hone during our coaching serve clients not only in their career search, but in community, family and in their new career.  In this Inc. article Warren Buffet speaks to the value of Investing in Yourself.  Advice can be basic, but even basic advice is important.  Cement […]

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November 2018

  • Gratitude makes for happier people, and a more successful business

    Ah, the simple things.  Gratitude.  Grateful people are happy people.  “What have I got to be grateful for?” you might ask.  Indeed, there are those days, those seasons in our life when we might start to believe that we don’t have much to be thankful for.  Perhaps our boss steals our ideas, haven’t had a review or raise in 3 years, the company let me go with no warning or negative feedback ever, my co-workers are cliquish,  and my secretary talks behind my back.   It certainly sound like we’re asking you to drink the Kool-Aid to say there is a […]

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  • Does it pay to be nice?

    So, is civility just a garnish on the plate of business?  We grew up learning how to be nice to those around us, sometimes that gets lost in the busyness of business.  I recall an incident years ago, the factory had a high pressure line break and I shouted to the supervisor to, “Go, shut it off right now!”   He stopped came back and asked if it was too much trouble for me to say, “Please.”  I was completely taken aback.  That said, I have been guilty in the past of sacrificing relationship on the altar of expediency.  I did […]

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October 2018

  • What is Leadership and Who make the best Leaders?

    For a long time businesses have looked for that over the top, larger than life personality to lead.  But is that really what benefits the organization.  Think about the leaders you’ve known in your work life, think about historical leaders and consider what traits serve best.  Oh, sure there is the strong leader who is able to push, pull, or throw the organization against a goal, but what is the steady form of leadership that draws the best out of the team.  A super star doesn’t get the job done, unless the rest of the team is engaged and plays […]

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July 2018

  • Less is more … Happiness comes in small packages

    So what is the basis of happiness?  We often hear money can’t buy happiness, but then most of our time, attention, and effort goes into making more money.  Happiness just may be aligning our efforts with our core values, the more divergent our work is from our core values the more stress and anxiety we experience.  But there is more, sometimes we need to get the stuff out of the way.  Check out this TED talk called, “Less stuff, More Happiness.”

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  • Change takes time…

    We can be in a big hurry to move through change, to gain closure, to put it all behind us.  But is this really the case?  Change, whether it is perceived as good or bad requires us to leave something behind.  When we graduate we leave behind some rather happy times as a student.  When we marry we leave the single life, and even though we prefer to be married (most days), we have to recognize that we have chosen a new life over the old. The old life is not forgotten, nor do we want to put it behind […]

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It is virtually impossible to go through a day without communication. We communicate in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, and more. The messages can include clues such as tone, body language, facial expressions, and our perspective.

During times of chaos and uncertainty, it is even more essential that we begin our conversations with care and compassion. In stressful periods, many experience fear, worry, and anxiety. And those that have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization.

There is much potential in communication – the potential for productivity or for misunderstanding.

We can all think of a time when a conversation activated feelings of anger or frustration. Ineffective communication often drains our energy and can affect motivation, performance, quality of work, and relationships. By nature, we shift into a protective mode when we feel threatened, making us unable to hear the actual message.

The good news is that we can learn to recognize when this is happening and change the pattern by simply slowing down our breath. As we take a moment to breathe in and out at a slower pace, our brain moves from a fight, flight, or freeze response. We can then choose how we respond. We can share how we feel, ask questions for clarification, and embody calm. When we are genuine and come to conversations with curiosity and respect, we create a coherence that leads to clarity and effectiveness in our communication.

Prepare yourself to listen
Before you begin a conversation that may create depleting emotions, consider preparing yourself by making an intention to be respectful and to listen for the real message. Before ending the conversation, confirm mutual understanding between those speaking. You can state what you heard and ask for confirmation or clarification. This extra step often serves to build trust and a foundation for future discussions.

Words are weighty
As leaders, teachers, or parents, it is essential to be aware that our words hold greater weight. For some, those words are commands and not suggestions, so being careful with our word choices can be essential. Aim to be aware of and sensitive to the reality that our word choices can demoralize or motivate others. If you sense discord, it is an opportunity to create mutual understanding and get back into alignment with shared goals and missions.

It can be challenging to hear a message if we don’t feel listened to, valued, or appreciated. Effective communication requires a level of mutual respect and trust. Trust is critical to effective communication. If we don’t trust someone, we are often unable to hear their message.

Take a moment and recall a time when someone’s words allowed you to connect to a renewing emotion, such as confidence or appreciation. You may also remember a time when you aligned with someone and felt heard, valued, or respected.

The first memory that came to me was from a conversation many years ago with a former boss. I had implemented new systems and created new programs for the organization, but I was unsuccessful in my attempts to be promoted. One day I asked him for a moment of his time and shared with him a prototype flyer I had created with the idea to start a new marketing business.

I felt a bit threatened because I didn’t know how he would respond and if he would start looking for my replacement. Instead, he leaned back in his chair, smiled, and said, “I am very proud of you. You are finally starting to see your potential.”

I did start that marketing company and have been serving others for more than 20 years. During the lean early years, I held on to his words and determined that his belief in me was enough to keep me motivated. That conversation could not have taken place without the safe space that included trust and respect.

What can we do to find our calm so that we can listen deeply to others and not assume we know what another is thinking or feeling? so that we can share effective and powerful conversations? What can you say or ask today that will lead to better understanding, compassion, care, and improved connection?

Interested in learning more about creating sustainable change for powerful conversations for you or your organization? Schedule a complimentary conversation.

April 2026

  • Golden Career Strategies Announces Special Veterans Day Offer

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff November 9, 2022 In honor of Veterans Day, Golden Career Strategies (GCS) offers a complimentary Stress and Well-Being Assessment to veterans who call or register online. This special offer ($100 value) includes a 30-minute review and tips for reducing stress, becoming more resilient and building one’s capacity for resilience. “We truly value those who have served our country and want to serve them in return, even if in a small way,” said GCS CEO Stacey Bevill, who personally supports veterans as a volunteer coach for Stand Beside Them, a national 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to helping veterans transition out of the […]

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  • Safe Harbor Provides HeartMath® Training for Staff to Build Resiliency

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  • Press Release: Golden Career Strategies Adds Change Management to Portfolio of Services

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  • Onboarding for Mergers and Acquisitions

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  • Workforce Resilience

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 16, 2021 One of the common attributes’ employees list for an ideal job is a stress-free work environment. Even if there was such a thing as a stress-free job, the reality is we would still carry our stress from home and other sources. To make matters worse, a study from the Max Planck Institute for Human Cognitive and Brain Sciences, Leipzig indicates that stress is contagious. “Observing another person in a stressful situation can be enough to make our own bodies release the stress hormone cortisol.” [1] Most of us are familiar with cortisol, but few know that over a thousand […]

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  • Talent Innovation

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff September 29, 2021 Many years ago, an executive director I worked for told me, “I don’t pay you to think.” After a moment of shock, I replied, “I guess that explains why you pay me so little.” During my time with that organization, I spearheaded many projects, some of which are still in existence over 20 years later. Thankfully my willingness to create and improve systems to serve our clients better wasn’t squashed. It easily could have been, as this was my first “real” job after college and I was working with team members with higher education levels. This […]

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  • Energy in Leadership

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  • Improving Communication by Building Trust

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 13, 2022 Communication is part of everyday life, whether in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, or other avenues. The messages often include tone, body language, facial expressions, and perspective clues. Communication has the potential for understanding and productivity or misunderstanding and disengagement. Including care and compassion in our conversations during stressful times becomes even more critical. Those who have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization and others may experience anxiety, worry, fear, and other depleting emotions. Can you think of a time when communication activated feelings of inspiration and connection? What […]

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  • 20 Ways to Minimize Fear

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 30, 2023 Fear is an emotion everyone experiences in their lifetime. A perceived threat that activates fear can be physical, psychological, or emotional. It can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear activates our survival instincts. It can motivate us to take action that will prevent us from harm. Some of us even enjoy being afraid, and we purposely watch scary movies or engage in high-risk adventures such as skydiving for the natural high of an adrenaline rush. The impact of fear […]

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  • Identifying Concerns in the Workplace and Beyond

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff January 15, 2024 About five years ago, I was asked the following question: What issue for today’s working women is of most concern to you? When I started writing my response, I noticed that I had more concerns than I realized and that they were the concerns of many –not just women. Taking the time to identify these concerns motivates me to do what I can to lessen them. Acknowledge Concerns My concern is multifaceted. We live with the belief that self-sacrifice is more honorable than self-care. We have forgotten to say “No.” to yet another request. We forget to ask, […]

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  • Are You Ready for Better?

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff April 25, 2024 Ready for Better Do you want to become a better leader, embrace personal development, or improve your team’s engagement and innovation? Perhaps you have an idea for a book or a passion for learning a new subject or language. After founding and working in a marketing company for 17 years, I knew it was time for a change. This is my journey so far, followed by several tips to support your journey. I hope it inspires you. “What one man can do, another can do.” (The Edge)[1] Opportunities Abound For over a decade, I had the […]

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  • Sustainable Mental Well-being with Coherence and Resiliency

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 8, 2024 My sister used to tell me, “Use your powers for good.” Growing up with Wonder Woman as one of my heroes, this was easy to imagine. As I matured, it was harder at times to remember that we are all “fearfully and wonderfully made…” and capable of much more than we realize. Learning to manage emotional and mental well-being is crucial for success, enjoyment of life and physical health. In today’s fast-paced world, knowing how to obtain a state of coherence and resilience quickly helps us and impacts those with whom we interact. I love that, […]

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  • Taking Flight with DISC: Revolutionizing Team Dynamics in Manufacturing

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff March 4, 2025 Effective teamwork and communication are crucial in today’s fast-paced, high-stress work environments. As to-do lists grow and deadlines loom, organizations require innovative tools to enhance self-awareness, team performance, engagement and effective leadership. Introducing “Taking Flight with DISC” – an enhanced version of the classic DISC assessment that’s taking team building to new heights. The Evolution of DISC The traditional DISC assessment, a long-standing tool in organizational development, has been a go-to resource for understanding personality styles and improving teams. With over a million assessments sold annually, its effectiveness is well-established. However, a common challenge persists: How […]

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  • Taming Everyday Lions

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff April 6, 2025 Have you ever been to a circus and watched a lion tamer with a four-legged stool? While the effectiveness of using a stool against a lion is debatable and not scientifically proven, the idea that a four-legged stool can prevent a lion from attacking is an intriguing concept that combines elements of animal behavior, psychology, and human ingenuity. Let’s examine the reasoning behind this unconventional defense strategy and explore how to apply these concepts to tame the lions in your life. Visual Confusion The primary theory behind using a stool against a lion revolves around visual […]

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  • From Pruning to Growth: What Plant Care Can Teach Us About Employee Well-being

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 15, 2025 Recently, while pruning plants that had suffered from sun and water stress, I noticed that after pruning, beautiful new growth emerged rapidly. This experience inspired me to express the importance of leaders in fostering similar rejuvenation in their teams by addressing stress and promoting a supportive and collaborative work environment. Recognizing Stress The leaves of my Hosta plants were not just yellowed; they were browning and droopy. Before this recent experience, I did not enjoy working with plants. But on this day, I spent over three hours tending to our plants and garden, and for the […]

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  • Golden Career Strategies President Stacey Bevill Earns Harrison Assessments Debriefing and Coaching Accreditation

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 2, 2022 Stacey Bevill, Owner and President of Golden Career Strategies, recently became a certified Harrison Assessment provider. Harrison Assessments’ Talent Solutions Platform empowers businesses and leaders across the globe to create engaged, fulfilled and high-performing teams by providing insights for talent acquisition, employee development, team development, leadership and succession planning, employee engagement and organizational analytics. Harrison’s award-winning, cloud-based technology provides secure, job-specific predictive analytics designed to enhance the candidate and employee experiences. Organizations save time and money by utilizing Harrison’s assessment science and technology to hire the best candidates, validate high potentials, and accelerate individual and team […]

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  • Golden Career Strategies CEO Stacey Bevill Earns Specialty Designations for Board Certified Coach (BCC) Credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE)

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 6, 2022 Stacey Bevill, BCC, PCC, MPM®, is one of fewer than 12 Board Certified Coaches in the Greenville-Spartanburg area and part of an elite group of only 66 in the entire state of South Carolina.  Stacey Bevill, Owner and CEO of Golden Career Strategies, recently earned two prestigious specialty designations for her Board Certified Coach (BCC) credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE). These specialty designations are voluntary accompaniments to the BCC credential emphasizing areas of expertise. Bevill’s specialty designations include Executive/Corporate/Business/Leadership Coach and Career Coach. The BCC credential is a mark of distinction for credential holders and a source […]

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  • Team Engagement and Collaboration in a Hybrid World

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff June 1, 2022 Unprecedented Stress Over the last couple of years, employees have experienced unprecedented stress from external sources including significant losses or changes, health issues, social division and more, all while managing their personal and professional obligations. As a result, employment expectations for both employers and their employees have shifted and will continue to change. Work View Shifts One primary shift is how employees view work. They want a position that is more closely aligned with personal values. Many want their job to have a purpose in their life and not just a way to make a living. […]

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March 2024

  • Identifying and Removing Stressors

    This summer I addressed little things in my life that either annoyed me or added stress. Once identified, it was easy to take action. Below are a few examples. I hope you will be inspired to identify and remove some of your own stressors. 1. Every morning I felt frustrated with having dirt and dog hair on the kitchen floor. Action: Bought a robot vacuum. Result: A smile each morning as I see the floors and empty the vacuum. Love it so much we now have one for the carpeted rooms and will be getting one for the upstairs. 2. […]

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  • Peace Begins with Me

    Recently I attended a Peace Conference. Early in the day we were told that “peace begins with us.” Peace begins with us. I have been contemplating those four simple words since the conference. Peace is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as “In a general sense, a state of quiet or tranquility; freedom from disturbance or agitation; applicable to society, to individuals, or to the temper of the mind.” If peace begins with our own ability to enjoy peace, what are our chances for peace beyond us? How many of us have peace in our daily lives? Today during my morning walk […]

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  • Resolve to be a Better Communicator

    A study by the Joint Commission for Transforming Healthcare revealed that up to 80 percent of serious medical errors can be attributed to miscommunication among medical staff. The good news is that we can easily learn skills to help us communicate more effectively and improve our business and personal relationships. Making effective requests of others is an integral part of good communication in the workplace and at home. But many of us haven’t learned how to deliver a concise request with clear expectations. Oftentimes, we expect others to read our minds or intuitively know how to respond to our requests. […]

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  • Being Compassionate in a Time of Crisis

      If I had to pick one word to describe what we need during this time, that word would be compassion. Compassion for self and compassion for others. Why compassion? When we are under duress or experiencing stress we are more likely to make mistakes, communicate less effectively and present with emotions and behaviors that vary from our norm. For many, the changes and the challenges that we are currently facing trigger unresolved grief or trauma. We feel rocked to our core. Trauma lives in cellular memory, not just the brain. When we experience a traumatic event such as what […]

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  • Communication and Trust During Times of Chaos

    It is virtually impossible to go through a day without communication. We communicate in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, and more. The messages can include clues such as tone, body language, facial expressions, and our perspective. During times of chaos and uncertainty, it is even more essential that we begin our conversations with care and compassion. In stressful periods, many experience fear, worry, and anxiety. And those that have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization. There is much potential in communication – the potential for productivity or for misunderstanding. We can all think […]

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January 2022

  • The Impact of Fear and 20 Ways to Minimize It

    Chronic fear impacts our physical health, memory, brain processing, and our mental health. This article will explain what happens in our brains and bodies when we experience fear and ways that we can move from fear to resilience. We feel the emotion fear when we are threatened. The perceived threat can be either physical, psychological, or emotional and can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear can help to keep us safe by motivating us to take action that will prevent us from harm. […]

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September 2019

  • Does Cultural Fit make for Group Think?

    In advising clients we often mention the cultural fit of an organization.  Do you like ping pong tables next to your desk?  Is the organization one where all-nighters are part of how the work gets done?  In looking at culture on your way in you certainly want one where your core values are in alignment.  Violating this maxim creates a stressful work environment.  I would suggest that if you do take a position violating the rule of alignment of your basic core values (the gap between your values and the values of the organization) you create a space for stress […]

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August 2019

  • Are You Agile Enough?

    What does it mean to be agile?  How many businesses do you know that espouse agility but couldn’t find it in the dictionary?  There are a lot of demands in the commercial world-Faster-Better-Cheaper.  And on top of that the other guys—whoever they may be—are already doing it, so now you’re in catch up mode.  In this WSJ article by Sue Shellenbarger she discusses the pros, cons and potential harm of corporate agility.  Enjoy!!!

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  • Overqualified or Unemployed, What Kind of Choice is That?

    Ok, you’ve got great experience, killer credentials, you score the first interview, then the second.  And then you get the call, “we appreciate your submittal and participation in this process, however we going with a candidate who is a closer match to our needs.”  “Wait” you say, “my resume looks almost exactly like your requirements, in fact a little better.” “Too much,” they say, “you’re OVERQUALIFIED.”  The kiss of death, or is it?  Organizations want hungry applicants who meet their needs but not too much experience.  Sometimes the overqualified rejection seems like a veiled age discrimination, but it can happen […]

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July 2019

  • Boss Management 201

    So ….. have a new boss?  And perhaps you’ve heard off bosses like this — demanding, unrealistically demanding, not supportive, perhaps you’ve even questioned they’re emotional stability with other members of the management team.  A little while back we had a GCS Roundtable discussion on boss management, we touched briefly on how to engage and manage bosses like this.  Bosses who aren’t team players who impressed the hiring committee with their take charge, self-confidence, change agent presentation. You can’t hide from such a leader.  In fact, you mustn’t take these tirades, or put downs personally. This is your opportunity to […]

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May 2019

  • The Challenges of Finding that First Job

    The ever changing career market throws challenges at seekers as they try to out think employers desires.  I have seen a number of graduates working hard to give employers what they want.  First a graduate degree, then intern experience and now it would seem that job experience helps to set one apart from the crowd.  How does a student and ultimately a graduate find and secure the position they desire? First, have a target.  Internships, graduate degrees and work experience will not add much to your resume if there isn’t a target in mind.  As you gather your education create […]

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March 2019

  • Making your next interview work for you

    Perhaps you’ve had this experience, you interview with a potential new employer, or for a promotion/job change within your existing employer, its a great interview from your standpoint but you don’t get the nod. It isn’t always easy to find that right combination to get to that next step and I don’t have a silver bullet to offer you to overcome resistance. But, you can make some extra preparations for that interview. Be prepared to tell a story about how you overcame adversity to meet a goal. Include as many details as appropriate, you see we remember stories, particularly real […]

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February 2019

  • Promotions can Change more than just your office.

    So you’ve been at your current position for sometime, you’ve achieved some success and you’ve established a number of relationships. The boss, noticing your effort and your success, extends a promotion. Its just what you were hoping for, more salary and the chance to impact the direction of your organization. You turn around to celebrate with your friends and … where did they go? You’d like to think that a title change would not affect your relationships, but it does. How you manage that effectively is key to avoid misunderstanding and confusion, In this article from the Wall Street Journal, […]

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January 2019

  • Another reorganization, is it time to head for the exit?

    We’ve all experienced a company reorganization. Sometimes its economically driven, sometimes it is new ownership, it always causes anxiety. It often surprised me how quickly my co-workers would want to head for the exits before the reorganization was fully rolled out, before they knew how it might affect them. There’s a great deal of emotion expended in a reorganization many times leading to irrational choices. My question often was how can moving to a new company you don’t really know be better than staying where you are and finding out your new role? But, sometimes its just reorg fatigue, too […]

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  • Is it time in your career to yield, make a u-turn, or exit?

    We all work hard to make our careers a success. This can be a detailed plan, it might be an opportunistic path as others pursue you, or it could be that as you reach each point you merely look for the next step. In many situations there comes a time of re-evaluation. Is this leading to where I thought I was headed? Can I afford to stay in this job? Do I have to check my personal values at the door each day to follow through on my assignments. Under conditions where you are challenged each day, where the space […]

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December 2018

  • The Impromptu Speech, rational or rambling?

    Some years ago the manufacturing company where I was VP was about to embark on a major change.  It was important enough that the president wanted to hold a company wide meeting first thing on Monday morning.  Over the weekend I considered how I would approach this topic and the major points.  Monday morning we settled into our cafeteria, the only room big enough, the president came in and started.  “I suppose you’re all wondering why we’re meeting this morning” … “Steve’s got something to tell you,” he said pointing at me.  Wow, talk about impromptu.  I was blessed.  I […]

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  • Career Advice in 3 Words

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November 2018

  • Gratitude makes for happier people, and a more successful business

    Ah, the simple things.  Gratitude.  Grateful people are happy people.  “What have I got to be grateful for?” you might ask.  Indeed, there are those days, those seasons in our life when we might start to believe that we don’t have much to be thankful for.  Perhaps our boss steals our ideas, haven’t had a review or raise in 3 years, the company let me go with no warning or negative feedback ever, my co-workers are cliquish,  and my secretary talks behind my back.   It certainly sound like we’re asking you to drink the Kool-Aid to say there is a […]

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  • Does it pay to be nice?

    So, is civility just a garnish on the plate of business?  We grew up learning how to be nice to those around us, sometimes that gets lost in the busyness of business.  I recall an incident years ago, the factory had a high pressure line break and I shouted to the supervisor to, “Go, shut it off right now!”   He stopped came back and asked if it was too much trouble for me to say, “Please.”  I was completely taken aback.  That said, I have been guilty in the past of sacrificing relationship on the altar of expediency.  I did […]

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October 2018

  • What is Leadership and Who make the best Leaders?

    For a long time businesses have looked for that over the top, larger than life personality to lead.  But is that really what benefits the organization.  Think about the leaders you’ve known in your work life, think about historical leaders and consider what traits serve best.  Oh, sure there is the strong leader who is able to push, pull, or throw the organization against a goal, but what is the steady form of leadership that draws the best out of the team.  A super star doesn’t get the job done, unless the rest of the team is engaged and plays […]

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July 2018

  • Less is more … Happiness comes in small packages

    So what is the basis of happiness?  We often hear money can’t buy happiness, but then most of our time, attention, and effort goes into making more money.  Happiness just may be aligning our efforts with our core values, the more divergent our work is from our core values the more stress and anxiety we experience.  But there is more, sometimes we need to get the stuff out of the way.  Check out this TED talk called, “Less stuff, More Happiness.”

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  • Change takes time…

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Coping with Coronavirus: the Impact and 20 Ways to Minimize Fear
Chronic fear impacts our physical health, memory, brain processing, and our mental health. This article will explain what happens in our brains and bodies when we experience fear and ways that we can move from fear to resilience.

We feel the emotion fear when we are threatened. The perceived threat can be either physical, psychological, or emotional and can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear can help to keep us safe by motivating us to take action that will prevent us from harm. Some of us enjoy being afraid, and we purposely watch scary movies or engage in high-risk adventures such as skydiving.

Hard-wired to detect and respond to danger

Our brains are hard-wired to respond to danger. Our nervous system continually takes in sensory information from our environment and from physiological responses to access risk. Most of us are familiar with fight, flight, or freeze, but there is also a response named appease. Each of these is a physiological response expressed in behavior. The term neuroception, coined by Dr. Stephen Porges, describes how our neural circuitry consistently distinguishes whether situations or people are safe, dangerous, or life-threatening. https://eric.ed.gov/?id=EJ938225

Our bodies respond to fear

Several physiological changes occur in response to fear. In a fight or flight response, our breath and heart rates increase. Our peripheral blood vessels constrict, and our central blood vessels dilate to flood vital organs with oxygen and nutrients. Blood rushes to our muscles, and blood sugar levels can spike to provide energy. Our bloodstream may also have an increase in white blood cells and calcium. Our stomach and pancreas inhibit digestion while the adrenal glands stimulate the secretion of epinephrine. Adrenalin and dopamine levels rise, and the production of tears, salivation, and hearing is reduced. Tunnel vision may occur as our pupils dilate to improve visual acuity.

A freeze response may occur when there is a perceived threat to safety, connection, or dignity. (Amanda Blake, Body=Brain www.embright.org) In a freeze response, we may dissociate, play dead, or engage in passive avoidance. Our pupils contract and heart and breathing rates slow down.

When we respond to a perceived threat to safety, connection, or dignity by appeasing, we are attempting to accommodate or submit to minimize further danger. All of these responses are normal.

How fear processed in the brain

The amygdala plays a vital role in processing emotions, including fear. Trauma responses and memories are stored in the amygdala. The amygdala is closely related to the hippocampus (memory recall) and the prefrontal cortex, which help the brain interpret the perceived threat.  (https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/what-happens-brain-feel-fear-180966992/) When the amygdala is activated, it triggers the hypothalamus, which prompts the pituitary gland. The pituitary gland connects the nervous system to the endocrine (hormonal) system. Once the adrenal gland activates, epinephrine flows to the bloodstream. The body then releases cortisol and over 1,400 other chemicals that negatively affect the body. (HeartMath® Training)

Chronic fear impacts us

In my last article, I wrote that “if we continue to experience an emotion for hours or days, it will become a mood. Over time, if we stay in that mood, it will become a temperament and eventually a personality trait.” (https://livingupstatesc.com/being-compassionate-in-a-time-of-crisis/) Additionally, when we live in constant fear, our bodies, mental health, brain function, and memory can suffer.

  1. Physical Health
    Chronic fear weakens our immune system, which makes us more susceptible to viruses and bacterial infections. It can also affect our cardiovascular health and create gastrointestinal problems such as ulcers and even irritable bowel syndrome. Living in fear for an extended time can lead to premature aging and early death.
  2. Mental Health
    Feeling constant perceived threat can lead to fatigue and serious diagnoses such as depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
  3. Brain Function
    The ability to regulate emotions, read non-verbal clues, reflect before responding, and act ethically are all processes in the brain that can be disrupted. Chronic fear leads to poor decision making, intense emotions, and inappropriate reactions.
  4. Memory
    The hippocampus (memory recall) can be damaged, which impairs the formation of long-term memories. Regulating fear becomes more difficult. (https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/impact-fear-and-anxiety)

Shifting from Chronic Fear

Thankfully, there are many easy actions we can take to minimize the effects of fear in our lives. It is impossible to live in fear and, at the same time, experience the good in the present moment. Below is a partial list of specific actions we can take to minimize the intensity. Trust your heart and pick a couple of practices that appeal to you.

  1. Be aware of your emotions for a few minutes. We can’t run from them, but when we face them, they lose their intensity.
  2. Address fear by talking about it, writing about it, or merely thinking about it with curiosity. When we pay attention, we can ask ourselves questions like, “How is this emotion serving me?” or “What action can I take to create good at this moment?” or “What can this teach me?”
  3. Move your body. Dance, Run, Walk, engage in a physical exertion that pushes you beyond your perceived limits.
  4. Turn off the news. Today’s news and is designed to keep you watching. Pay attention to how you feel when you are listening to the press. If it elicits fear, limit the amount of time you watch each day.
  5. Limit social media. Pay attention to sensations in your body as you scroll and read posts. Block or hide posts that cause you to feel fearful.
  6. Take slow, deep breaths. These breaths signal to the brain that we are safe, and the intensity of the emotion diminishes.
  7. Reach out to friends or loved ones.
  8. Write down what you are thankful for in your life. Keep the list out so that you can add to it when things come to mind. Review the list when you are in an uncomfortable place.
  9. Allow yourself to reflect on what you are thankful for and notice when the feeling of gratitude shifts you from fear.
  10. The brain does not know the difference between fake laughter and real laughter. Watch a laughter yoga video on YouTube if you need help stimulating laughter. Watch a favorite comedy. Remember and share funny stories of things that happened in your past.
  11. Reflect on times when you have felt strong, secure, and courageous.
  12. Change your body posture. Stand up and assume a powerful pose and hold it for three minutes.
  13. Be kind to yourself. Engage in favorite activities that make you feel alive. What do you do that makes you completely lose track of time?
  14. Question your thoughts. Just because you think them, doesn’t mean they are true.
  15. Reread a favorite book.
  16. Eat a healthy diet. Avoid sugar.
  17. Help others – get creative in this time of isolation.
  18. Pray for guidance and peace.
  19. Seek out a mentor or a coach.
  20. Trust your inner wisdom.

By engaging in the activities listed above, we can regulate our emotions, manage our energy, and reduce stress. Fear is external but can become internal, which becomes anxiety.

Would you like to learn more? Schedule a complimentary conversation.

April 2026

  • Golden Career Strategies Announces Special Veterans Day Offer

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff November 9, 2022 In honor of Veterans Day, Golden Career Strategies (GCS) offers a complimentary Stress and Well-Being Assessment to veterans who call or register online. This special offer ($100 value) includes a 30-minute review and tips for reducing stress, becoming more resilient and building one’s capacity for resilience. “We truly value those who have served our country and want to serve them in return, even if in a small way,” said GCS CEO Stacey Bevill, who personally supports veterans as a volunteer coach for Stand Beside Them, a national 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to helping veterans transition out of the […]

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  • Safe Harbor Provides HeartMath® Training for Staff to Build Resiliency

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  • Press Release: Golden Career Strategies Adds Change Management to Portfolio of Services

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff July 21, 2021 Greenville, SC, July 13, 2021 — Golden Career Strategies (GCS) is pleased to announce the company has added another valuable offering to its portfolio of services: Change Management, which focuses on helping organizations be successful in implementing special projects or major strategic initiatives. This comes on the heels of GCS President Stacey Bevill earning the prestigious designation of APMG International™ Certified Local Change Agent (CLCA). As a CLCA, Bevill can serve organizations as a Local Change Agent to execute change success for her clients and help train others to become APMG International™ Change Management professionals. “By engaging professional assistance to […]

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  • Onboarding for Mergers and Acquisitions

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff July 19, 2021 We often think of onboarding for new hires, but effective onboarding is also imperative for successful transition during mergers and acquisitions. Even before the final contracts are signed, it is beneficial to have an onboarding plan. Sadly, more often than not, little preparation has been made for onboarding staff members who may feel uneasy even in the most exciting of times. To successfully onboard an acquired team, great care must be taken to move these team members into their new corporate “homes” quickly and carefully. This calls for a particular set of change management activities that […]

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  • Workforce Resilience

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 16, 2021 One of the common attributes’ employees list for an ideal job is a stress-free work environment. Even if there was such a thing as a stress-free job, the reality is we would still carry our stress from home and other sources. To make matters worse, a study from the Max Planck Institute for Human Cognitive and Brain Sciences, Leipzig indicates that stress is contagious. “Observing another person in a stressful situation can be enough to make our own bodies release the stress hormone cortisol.” [1] Most of us are familiar with cortisol, but few know that over a thousand […]

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  • Talent Innovation

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff September 29, 2021 Many years ago, an executive director I worked for told me, “I don’t pay you to think.” After a moment of shock, I replied, “I guess that explains why you pay me so little.” During my time with that organization, I spearheaded many projects, some of which are still in existence over 20 years later. Thankfully my willingness to create and improve systems to serve our clients better wasn’t squashed. It easily could have been, as this was my first “real” job after college and I was working with team members with higher education levels. This […]

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  • Energy in Leadership

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 2, 2022 Energy Measurement We all feel each other’s energy, whether we’re aware of it or not. Each time our heart beats, a magnetic field travels out of our bodies and extends in all directions. This field can be measured with magnetometers. Gerhard Baule and Richard McFee first demonstrated the first biomagnetic signal in 1863 with a magnetocardiogram (MCG) that used magnetic induction coils to detect fields generated by the human heart. Research indicates that we feel each other’s energy as far as three feet away from the body.[1] Many scientists believe we can feel each other’s energy further, […]

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  • Improving Communication by Building Trust

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 13, 2022 Communication is part of everyday life, whether in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, or other avenues. The messages often include tone, body language, facial expressions, and perspective clues. Communication has the potential for understanding and productivity or misunderstanding and disengagement. Including care and compassion in our conversations during stressful times becomes even more critical. Those who have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization and others may experience anxiety, worry, fear, and other depleting emotions. Can you think of a time when communication activated feelings of inspiration and connection? What […]

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  • 20 Ways to Minimize Fear

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 30, 2023 Fear is an emotion everyone experiences in their lifetime. A perceived threat that activates fear can be physical, psychological, or emotional. It can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear activates our survival instincts. It can motivate us to take action that will prevent us from harm. Some of us even enjoy being afraid, and we purposely watch scary movies or engage in high-risk adventures such as skydiving for the natural high of an adrenaline rush. The impact of fear […]

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  • Identifying Concerns in the Workplace and Beyond

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff January 15, 2024 About five years ago, I was asked the following question: What issue for today’s working women is of most concern to you? When I started writing my response, I noticed that I had more concerns than I realized and that they were the concerns of many –not just women. Taking the time to identify these concerns motivates me to do what I can to lessen them. Acknowledge Concerns My concern is multifaceted. We live with the belief that self-sacrifice is more honorable than self-care. We have forgotten to say “No.” to yet another request. We forget to ask, […]

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  • Are You Ready for Better?

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff April 25, 2024 Ready for Better Do you want to become a better leader, embrace personal development, or improve your team’s engagement and innovation? Perhaps you have an idea for a book or a passion for learning a new subject or language. After founding and working in a marketing company for 17 years, I knew it was time for a change. This is my journey so far, followed by several tips to support your journey. I hope it inspires you. “What one man can do, another can do.” (The Edge)[1] Opportunities Abound For over a decade, I had the […]

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  • Sustainable Mental Well-being with Coherence and Resiliency

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 8, 2024 My sister used to tell me, “Use your powers for good.” Growing up with Wonder Woman as one of my heroes, this was easy to imagine. As I matured, it was harder at times to remember that we are all “fearfully and wonderfully made…” and capable of much more than we realize. Learning to manage emotional and mental well-being is crucial for success, enjoyment of life and physical health. In today’s fast-paced world, knowing how to obtain a state of coherence and resilience quickly helps us and impacts those with whom we interact. I love that, […]

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  • Taking Flight with DISC: Revolutionizing Team Dynamics in Manufacturing

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff March 4, 2025 Effective teamwork and communication are crucial in today’s fast-paced, high-stress work environments. As to-do lists grow and deadlines loom, organizations require innovative tools to enhance self-awareness, team performance, engagement and effective leadership. Introducing “Taking Flight with DISC” – an enhanced version of the classic DISC assessment that’s taking team building to new heights. The Evolution of DISC The traditional DISC assessment, a long-standing tool in organizational development, has been a go-to resource for understanding personality styles and improving teams. With over a million assessments sold annually, its effectiveness is well-established. However, a common challenge persists: How […]

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  • Taming Everyday Lions

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff April 6, 2025 Have you ever been to a circus and watched a lion tamer with a four-legged stool? While the effectiveness of using a stool against a lion is debatable and not scientifically proven, the idea that a four-legged stool can prevent a lion from attacking is an intriguing concept that combines elements of animal behavior, psychology, and human ingenuity. Let’s examine the reasoning behind this unconventional defense strategy and explore how to apply these concepts to tame the lions in your life. Visual Confusion The primary theory behind using a stool against a lion revolves around visual […]

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  • From Pruning to Growth: What Plant Care Can Teach Us About Employee Well-being

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 15, 2025 Recently, while pruning plants that had suffered from sun and water stress, I noticed that after pruning, beautiful new growth emerged rapidly. This experience inspired me to express the importance of leaders in fostering similar rejuvenation in their teams by addressing stress and promoting a supportive and collaborative work environment. Recognizing Stress The leaves of my Hosta plants were not just yellowed; they were browning and droopy. Before this recent experience, I did not enjoy working with plants. But on this day, I spent over three hours tending to our plants and garden, and for the […]

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  • Golden Career Strategies President Stacey Bevill Earns Harrison Assessments Debriefing and Coaching Accreditation

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff August 2, 2022 Stacey Bevill, Owner and President of Golden Career Strategies, recently became a certified Harrison Assessment provider. Harrison Assessments’ Talent Solutions Platform empowers businesses and leaders across the globe to create engaged, fulfilled and high-performing teams by providing insights for talent acquisition, employee development, team development, leadership and succession planning, employee engagement and organizational analytics. Harrison’s award-winning, cloud-based technology provides secure, job-specific predictive analytics designed to enhance the candidate and employee experiences. Organizations save time and money by utilizing Harrison’s assessment science and technology to hire the best candidates, validate high potentials, and accelerate individual and team […]

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  • Golden Career Strategies CEO Stacey Bevill Earns Specialty Designations for Board Certified Coach (BCC) Credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE)

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff October 6, 2022 Stacey Bevill, BCC, PCC, MPM®, is one of fewer than 12 Board Certified Coaches in the Greenville-Spartanburg area and part of an elite group of only 66 in the entire state of South Carolina.  Stacey Bevill, Owner and CEO of Golden Career Strategies, recently earned two prestigious specialty designations for her Board Certified Coach (BCC) credential from the Center for Credentialing and Education (CCE). These specialty designations are voluntary accompaniments to the BCC credential emphasizing areas of expertise. Bevill’s specialty designations include Executive/Corporate/Business/Leadership Coach and Career Coach. The BCC credential is a mark of distinction for credential holders and a source […]

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  • Team Engagement and Collaboration in a Hybrid World

    Posted By: SCMFG/Staff June 1, 2022 Unprecedented Stress Over the last couple of years, employees have experienced unprecedented stress from external sources including significant losses or changes, health issues, social division and more, all while managing their personal and professional obligations. As a result, employment expectations for both employers and their employees have shifted and will continue to change. Work View Shifts One primary shift is how employees view work. They want a position that is more closely aligned with personal values. Many want their job to have a purpose in their life and not just a way to make a living. […]

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March 2024

  • Identifying and Removing Stressors

    This summer I addressed little things in my life that either annoyed me or added stress. Once identified, it was easy to take action. Below are a few examples. I hope you will be inspired to identify and remove some of your own stressors. 1. Every morning I felt frustrated with having dirt and dog hair on the kitchen floor. Action: Bought a robot vacuum. Result: A smile each morning as I see the floors and empty the vacuum. Love it so much we now have one for the carpeted rooms and will be getting one for the upstairs. 2. […]

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  • Peace Begins with Me

    Recently I attended a Peace Conference. Early in the day we were told that “peace begins with us.” Peace begins with us. I have been contemplating those four simple words since the conference. Peace is defined in Webster’s Dictionary as “In a general sense, a state of quiet or tranquility; freedom from disturbance or agitation; applicable to society, to individuals, or to the temper of the mind.” If peace begins with our own ability to enjoy peace, what are our chances for peace beyond us? How many of us have peace in our daily lives? Today during my morning walk […]

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  • Resolve to be a Better Communicator

    A study by the Joint Commission for Transforming Healthcare revealed that up to 80 percent of serious medical errors can be attributed to miscommunication among medical staff. The good news is that we can easily learn skills to help us communicate more effectively and improve our business and personal relationships. Making effective requests of others is an integral part of good communication in the workplace and at home. But many of us haven’t learned how to deliver a concise request with clear expectations. Oftentimes, we expect others to read our minds or intuitively know how to respond to our requests. […]

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  • Being Compassionate in a Time of Crisis

      If I had to pick one word to describe what we need during this time, that word would be compassion. Compassion for self and compassion for others. Why compassion? When we are under duress or experiencing stress we are more likely to make mistakes, communicate less effectively and present with emotions and behaviors that vary from our norm. For many, the changes and the challenges that we are currently facing trigger unresolved grief or trauma. We feel rocked to our core. Trauma lives in cellular memory, not just the brain. When we experience a traumatic event such as what […]

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  • Communication and Trust During Times of Chaos

    It is virtually impossible to go through a day without communication. We communicate in person, via phone, texts, email, online meetings, social media, and more. The messages can include clues such as tone, body language, facial expressions, and our perspective. During times of chaos and uncertainty, it is even more essential that we begin our conversations with care and compassion. In stressful periods, many experience fear, worry, and anxiety. And those that have experienced trauma in their lives may be experiencing re-traumatization. There is much potential in communication – the potential for productivity or for misunderstanding. We can all think […]

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January 2022

  • The Impact of Fear and 20 Ways to Minimize It

    Chronic fear impacts our physical health, memory, brain processing, and our mental health. This article will explain what happens in our brains and bodies when we experience fear and ways that we can move from fear to resilience. We feel the emotion fear when we are threatened. The perceived threat can be either physical, psychological, or emotional and can also be real or imagined. We often think of emotions like fear or anger as bad, but every emotion serves a purpose. Fear can help to keep us safe by motivating us to take action that will prevent us from harm. […]

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September 2019

  • Does Cultural Fit make for Group Think?

    In advising clients we often mention the cultural fit of an organization.  Do you like ping pong tables next to your desk?  Is the organization one where all-nighters are part of how the work gets done?  In looking at culture on your way in you certainly want one where your core values are in alignment.  Violating this maxim creates a stressful work environment.  I would suggest that if you do take a position violating the rule of alignment of your basic core values (the gap between your values and the values of the organization) you create a space for stress […]

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August 2019

  • Are You Agile Enough?

    What does it mean to be agile?  How many businesses do you know that espouse agility but couldn’t find it in the dictionary?  There are a lot of demands in the commercial world-Faster-Better-Cheaper.  And on top of that the other guys—whoever they may be—are already doing it, so now you’re in catch up mode.  In this WSJ article by Sue Shellenbarger she discusses the pros, cons and potential harm of corporate agility.  Enjoy!!!

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  • Overqualified or Unemployed, What Kind of Choice is That?

    Ok, you’ve got great experience, killer credentials, you score the first interview, then the second.  And then you get the call, “we appreciate your submittal and participation in this process, however we going with a candidate who is a closer match to our needs.”  “Wait” you say, “my resume looks almost exactly like your requirements, in fact a little better.” “Too much,” they say, “you’re OVERQUALIFIED.”  The kiss of death, or is it?  Organizations want hungry applicants who meet their needs but not too much experience.  Sometimes the overqualified rejection seems like a veiled age discrimination, but it can happen […]

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July 2019

  • Boss Management 201

    So ….. have a new boss?  And perhaps you’ve heard off bosses like this — demanding, unrealistically demanding, not supportive, perhaps you’ve even questioned they’re emotional stability with other members of the management team.  A little while back we had a GCS Roundtable discussion on boss management, we touched briefly on how to engage and manage bosses like this.  Bosses who aren’t team players who impressed the hiring committee with their take charge, self-confidence, change agent presentation. You can’t hide from such a leader.  In fact, you mustn’t take these tirades, or put downs personally. This is your opportunity to […]

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May 2019

  • The Challenges of Finding that First Job

    The ever changing career market throws challenges at seekers as they try to out think employers desires.  I have seen a number of graduates working hard to give employers what they want.  First a graduate degree, then intern experience and now it would seem that job experience helps to set one apart from the crowd.  How does a student and ultimately a graduate find and secure the position they desire? First, have a target.  Internships, graduate degrees and work experience will not add much to your resume if there isn’t a target in mind.  As you gather your education create […]

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March 2019

  • Making your next interview work for you

    Perhaps you’ve had this experience, you interview with a potential new employer, or for a promotion/job change within your existing employer, its a great interview from your standpoint but you don’t get the nod. It isn’t always easy to find that right combination to get to that next step and I don’t have a silver bullet to offer you to overcome resistance. But, you can make some extra preparations for that interview. Be prepared to tell a story about how you overcame adversity to meet a goal. Include as many details as appropriate, you see we remember stories, particularly real […]

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February 2019

  • Promotions can Change more than just your office.

    So you’ve been at your current position for sometime, you’ve achieved some success and you’ve established a number of relationships. The boss, noticing your effort and your success, extends a promotion. Its just what you were hoping for, more salary and the chance to impact the direction of your organization. You turn around to celebrate with your friends and … where did they go? You’d like to think that a title change would not affect your relationships, but it does. How you manage that effectively is key to avoid misunderstanding and confusion, In this article from the Wall Street Journal, […]

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January 2019

  • Another reorganization, is it time to head for the exit?

    We’ve all experienced a company reorganization. Sometimes its economically driven, sometimes it is new ownership, it always causes anxiety. It often surprised me how quickly my co-workers would want to head for the exits before the reorganization was fully rolled out, before they knew how it might affect them. There’s a great deal of emotion expended in a reorganization many times leading to irrational choices. My question often was how can moving to a new company you don’t really know be better than staying where you are and finding out your new role? But, sometimes its just reorg fatigue, too […]

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  • Is it time in your career to yield, make a u-turn, or exit?

    We all work hard to make our careers a success. This can be a detailed plan, it might be an opportunistic path as others pursue you, or it could be that as you reach each point you merely look for the next step. In many situations there comes a time of re-evaluation. Is this leading to where I thought I was headed? Can I afford to stay in this job? Do I have to check my personal values at the door each day to follow through on my assignments. Under conditions where you are challenged each day, where the space […]

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December 2018

  • The Impromptu Speech, rational or rambling?

    Some years ago the manufacturing company where I was VP was about to embark on a major change.  It was important enough that the president wanted to hold a company wide meeting first thing on Monday morning.  Over the weekend I considered how I would approach this topic and the major points.  Monday morning we settled into our cafeteria, the only room big enough, the president came in and started.  “I suppose you’re all wondering why we’re meeting this morning” … “Steve’s got something to tell you,” he said pointing at me.  Wow, talk about impromptu.  I was blessed.  I […]

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  • Career Advice in 3 Words

    Everyday we get advice from all around us.  What to do, what not to do, the best phone, car, etc.  Here is some great investment advice:  Invest in Yourself!  As The Golden Course strives to impress upon clients — reflection upon and improvement of your skills is always valuable.  The skills we focus on and hone during our coaching serve clients not only in their career search, but in community, family and in their new career.  In this Inc. article Warren Buffet speaks to the value of Investing in Yourself.  Advice can be basic, but even basic advice is important.  Cement […]

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November 2018

  • Gratitude makes for happier people, and a more successful business

    Ah, the simple things.  Gratitude.  Grateful people are happy people.  “What have I got to be grateful for?” you might ask.  Indeed, there are those days, those seasons in our life when we might start to believe that we don’t have much to be thankful for.  Perhaps our boss steals our ideas, haven’t had a review or raise in 3 years, the company let me go with no warning or negative feedback ever, my co-workers are cliquish,  and my secretary talks behind my back.   It certainly sound like we’re asking you to drink the Kool-Aid to say there is a […]

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  • Does it pay to be nice?

    So, is civility just a garnish on the plate of business?  We grew up learning how to be nice to those around us, sometimes that gets lost in the busyness of business.  I recall an incident years ago, the factory had a high pressure line break and I shouted to the supervisor to, “Go, shut it off right now!”   He stopped came back and asked if it was too much trouble for me to say, “Please.”  I was completely taken aback.  That said, I have been guilty in the past of sacrificing relationship on the altar of expediency.  I did […]

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October 2018

  • What is Leadership and Who make the best Leaders?

    For a long time businesses have looked for that over the top, larger than life personality to lead.  But is that really what benefits the organization.  Think about the leaders you’ve known in your work life, think about historical leaders and consider what traits serve best.  Oh, sure there is the strong leader who is able to push, pull, or throw the organization against a goal, but what is the steady form of leadership that draws the best out of the team.  A super star doesn’t get the job done, unless the rest of the team is engaged and plays […]

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July 2018

  • Less is more … Happiness comes in small packages

    So what is the basis of happiness?  We often hear money can’t buy happiness, but then most of our time, attention, and effort goes into making more money.  Happiness just may be aligning our efforts with our core values, the more divergent our work is from our core values the more stress and anxiety we experience.  But there is more, sometimes we need to get the stuff out of the way.  Check out this TED talk called, “Less stuff, More Happiness.”

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  • Change takes time…

    We can be in a big hurry to move through change, to gain closure, to put it all behind us.  But is this really the case?  Change, whether it is perceived as good or bad requires us to leave something behind.  When we graduate we leave behind some rather happy times as a student.  When we marry we leave the single life, and even though we prefer to be married (most days), we have to recognize that we have chosen a new life over the old. The old life is not forgotten, nor do we want to put it behind […]

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